Wednesday, July 29, 2009

A Lesson from Daniel

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I'm sitting here, paging through my Bible. I have been studying the book of Daniel because our church is having VBS soon, and this is the theme for the week.

Most children know the story of Daniel and the Lion's Den. It is probably one of the most popular Bible Stories! But as I sit here reminding myself of the details, I am just feeling so thankful for the way God orchestrates the details of our lives.
Consider Daniel, taken from his home to serve the king, and given another name. All unfortunate events, if you look at them at face value.
But God as always was controlling all the little details - those details that would come together for the good of His child.
There are times in our lives when we feel anxious and insecure about the little details that we can't control.
How thankful we should be that we are not in control, and that a loving, merciful Father is teaching us and molding us.
His Time. His Purpose. His Glory.
It is as simple as that.
How thankful I am.

Saturday, July 18, 2009

Summer Reading-The Tenant of Wildfell Hall

I know, it's been awhile since the last post. Summer has been busy and gone way too fast! I hope you are all enjoying the warmer weather and the fun times this season brings with it. A couple months ago I read The Tenant of Wildfell Hall by Anne Bronte, and I've been waiting for the chance to sit down and share my thoughts on it. I was very surprised that I loved this book so much, because the Bronte sisters have a style that leans more toward the morose, depressing side. While The Tenant of Wildfell Hall is very dark in some parts, it also contains many Biblical truths and deals with a situation we girls can really learn from. I'd LOVE for all of you to go out and read the book, so let me warn you now, I'm going to be giving away some spoilers in the next few paragraphs (but not too many I hope!).

Let's begin with Gilbert Markham, a simple farmer with a cozy country family. He lives with his mother, sister Rose, and impish brother Fergus. He has no doubt in his mind that he will marry the pretty but spoiled and selfish Eliza Millward, the daughter of the town's pastor. That is, until the mysterious widow Helen Graham and her son move into Wildfell Hall-a secluded old home in the town. Soon the young widow becomes the target of speculation and gossip as the townspeople attempt to figure out her past before she moved into the Hall. Gilbert is immediately turned off by Helen's stiff and severe personality. Trying to befriend her young son, Arthur, he notes how over-protective she is of him and goes to great lengths to keep him out of society. An accomplished artist, Helen Graham makes her living in the world by painting beautiful landscapes-but all these are painted under an alias.

By winning the trust of little Arther, Gilbert slowly begins to find a place in the heart of the mysterious Mrs. Graham. Soon the shallow Eliza Millward means nothing to him as he finds himself taken in by Helen's deep thoughts and character. Although the two define their relationship as a brother and sister, Gilbert begins to feel much more for Helen, and attempts to tell her of these new feelings. Everytime the subject is brought up, she expresses how impossible it is for them to even think such thoughts, leaving Gilbert curious and perplexed. Another mysterious person in the plot is Mr. Lawrence, the landlord of Wildfell Hall, and a much too frequent visitor at the place. As nasty rumors begin to spread about Helen Graham's past, Gilbert is the first to rise to her defense. However, a confusing circumstance leads him to believe the worst of her, and he to forsakes her.

Unfortunately, Gilbert makes some serious mistakes and acts out of anger and even violence. Helen confronts him with his strange and sudden behavior, and as he expresses what he believes is the truth, she gives him a window into her past life-her very detailed journal. What Gilbert finds in Helen's diary surprises him very much, and more than 50% of The Tenant of Wildfell Hall consists of her journal entries until the last few chapters. It sounds like this would be boring, but it's not. It's so intriguing learning about Helen's life from her viewpoint (the first and last part of the book is from Gilbert's) that I found it hard to put the book down!

*Some spoilers ahead, but I'll try not to be too detailed!*

As Gilbert sits down to read this very long narrative, he is introduced to a very young Helen. She lives with her aunt and uncle because her mother is dead and her father is too busy to raise her. Helen also tells us that she has a brother, but they to live in different locations. Being somewhat close to her aunt, Helen has meaningful conversations with her, especially ones about marriage. Her aunt asks her if she ever thinks about matrimony, and Helen responds that she does, but thinks there are very few men that she should like to marry. Although Helen's aunt is not perfect and does not always choose the best suitors for her, she gives some sound advice.

(To Helen)"Keep a guard over your eyes and ears as the inlets of your heart, and over your lips as the outlet, lest they betray you in a moment of unwariness...First study; then approve; then love."-Helen's aunt.

(To her aunt)"I know there is truth and sense in what you say; but you need not fear me, for I not only should think it wrong to marrya man that was deficient in sense or in principle, but I should never be tempted to do it; for I could not like him, if he were ever so handsome, and ever so charming, in other respects...So set your mind at rest."-Helen.

However, one man enters Helen's life and turns it upside down. He is the young and charming Arthur Hungtingdon, who steals her heart and dismisses all her previous thoughts on men who are "deficient in sense and principle". At parties and social events, Arthur Hungtingdon shows Helen profuse attention, which flatters her even more. Helen's aunt begins to fear this young man's attentions, and continues in her warnings to her niece.

"Do you remember, Helen, our conversation the night but one before we left Staningley?"
"Yes, aunt."
"And do you remember how I warned you against letting your heart be stolen from you by those unworthy of its possession...and did you you not say that your affection must be founded on approbation; and that unless you could approve and honour and respect, you could not love?"
"Yes, but I do approve, honour, and respect---"
"How so, my dear? Is Mr. Hungtingdon a good man?"
"He is a much better man than you think him."
"Is he a good man?"
"Yes--in some respects. He has a good disposition."
"Is he a man of principle?"
"Perhaps not, exactly; but it is only for want of thought: if he had some one to advise him, and remind him of what is right."

Does any of this conversation sound familiar to you? Have you heard friends who have said this, or have you yourself spoken words similar to these? It's funny how our past ideas on relationships can change when a young man enters into our lives. Helen is absolutely glowing in the attentions of Mr. Hungtingdon. Believing herself to be in love, she thinks she can change all of Arthur's imperfections and impish bevavior.

Arthur Hungtingdon continues to pursue Helen, but teases her cruelly by pretending to be in love with someone else. She is hurt by his fickle attentions, but it's a clear warning to her as well. However, Helen doesn't take this as a warning when Arthur declares his love for her and asks for her hand in marriage. Overwhelmed with joy and happiness, Helen says she will accept if her uncle and aunt approve. They do eventually permit the match, although Helen's aunt is still wary of Arthur. He agrees to go to church with the family, and Helen delightedly takes this as a sign of spiritual maturity (even though he scribbles on his note pad through most of the sermon). Another warning bell goes off for Helen when Arthur reveals his true character. In a conversation with her, he unashamedly refers not only to gambling, but to leading his friend to drowning his sorrows in drinking alcohol. Helen is appalled and begins to rethink her decision, but still decides to marry Arthur.

After her marriage to Arthur, Helen is happy and content, but reveals that he is not the young man she thought him at first. He is wilful, conceited, and used to getting his own way. Helen, blindly in love, strives to please him. After a few more months, Arthur begins to show more of his true colors as he grows tired of the country life. He teases Helen unmercifully and shows immaturity, and the procession only goes from bad to worse. His so-called friends are drunks and lazy, and Helen has to put up with their visits from time to time. The next couple of years are absolute misery for her, and even the bearing of their son does nothing to bring them closer as husband and wife.

There is so much more I could write, but I know I've already written more than I had planned! So I will stop here, and even though I have revealed much of the plot, there is SO much more to the story, and I really encourage you to get a copy from the library. Throughout The Tenant of Wildfell Hall, I couldn't help but think how so many girls today make this very same mistake when they marry men whom they claim they can change after the marriage. As girls we have to be so careful, because we are more weak and vulnerable when it comes to our emotions. It's so easy to say that we'll be strong and able to resist a handsome man who shows romantic interest. Do you struggle with this? Sometimes I do, especially when I was younger. Helen had plenty of warning, but she still insisted upon marrying Arthur, and she was miserable for it later on. What I really loved about Helen though was her constant trust and faith in God. Although she didn't make very wise choices at the beginning, Helen knew that she could lean on Him through these trials.

Toward the end of the book, after Arthur has read Helen's journal and goes to visit her, he repents of his misconduct and begs her forgiveness. He still feels a romatic attraction to her, but Helen knows how wrong it is for her to give her love to him. At this point she thinks it is impossible for them to ever be together except in Heaven, but Gilbert is heartbroken and can't even bear the thought. Helen gives a beautiful illustration to him to make him better understand from her point of view.

"I do know that to regret the exchange of earthly pleasures for the joys of Heaven, is as if the grovelling caterpillar should lament that it must one day quit the nibbled leaf to soar aloft and flutter through the air, roving at will from flower to flower, sipping sweet honey from their cups, or basking in their sunny petals. If these little creatures knew how great a change awaited them, no doubt they would regret it; but would not all such sorrow be misplaced?"

This is one of my favorite quotes in the book; it shows how strong Helen's faith is even when she is feeling deep sorrow. It very much reminds me of Jane Eyre when she is explaining to Mr. Rochester why she cannot be with him after finding out about his wife. These are strong character traits that I hope I can show when faced with a difficult decision. When I first picked up this book from the libary, I never thought it would make me think so much. Out of all the Bronte sisters, I knew the littlest about Anne, but now I am excited to check out her other works. So girls, if you're looking for yet another book to add to your reading list this summer, add The Tenant of Wildfell Hall. You won't be disappointed. I hope you like it as much as I did, and I'd love to hear from you if you have read it or plan to!


Love in Christ,
Sara

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Honoring Our Fathers


So Father's Day is coming up this weekend. Do you have anything planned? My husband sweetly made breakfast for me on Mother's Day and gave me a wonderful, restful experience. For this Father's Day, we'll be on vacation, but my mom, sis, and I are still hoping to give our men a nice day!


My Hero
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s I ponder the love that I saw in his eyes,
A Godly love, given without compromise....
I recall many times that he stood by my side,
And prodded me on with great vigor and pride.
His voice ever confident, firm and yet fair,
Always speaking with patience, tenderness and care.
The power and might of his hands was so sure,
I knew there was nothing we couldn't endure.
It's true, a few others provided insight,
Yet, he laid the foundation that kept me upright.
He's the grandest of men to have lived on this earth,
Although he's not royal by stature or birth.
He's a man of great dignity, honor and strength.
His merits are noble, and of admirable length.
He's far greater than all other men that I know,
He's my Dad, he's my mentor, my friend and hero.

-Poem by Debbie Hinton Young

Here is an idea of a cake you could make for Dad. I think this is SO cute!

So happy Father's Day to my Daddy who will always be my hero, my husband - anyone would be blessed to have him as a Dad, and to my Father-in-law who has so willingly welcomed me into his family!

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Imitate Christ

The Lord Jesus "is altogether lovely." Then if I want to be lovely, I must be like Him, and the model for me as a Christian is Christ. Copy Jesus: "He is altogether lovely." We want to have Christ's zeal, but we must balance it with His prudence and discretion. We must seek to have Christ's love for God, and we must feel His love for men, His forgiveness of injury, His gentleness of speech, His incorruptible truthfulness, His consecration to His Father's business.

Oh, that we had all this! For depend on it--whatever other pattern we select, we have made a mistake; we are not following the true classic model of the Christian artist. Our master model is the "altogether lovely" one. How sweet it is to think of our Lord in the double aspect as our example and our Savior! Oh, when I come to my Lord Jesus, not only do I get rid of my sins, but also I see my spots in the light of His perfect character; and I am humbled and taught to follow after holiness.

~Charles Spurgeon

Friday, May 15, 2009

Ask the Philippians 4:8 Question

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My current devotional book is Simplify Your Spiritual Life by Donald S. Whitney. There is a short chapter on Philippians 4:8, and I thought I'd share it with you all:
"When Meditating On A Verse of Scripture, it's usually much easier to answer specific questions about it than to think about the text without any guidance or direction at all.
Recently, I was meditating on Philippians 4:8. It occurred to me that the directions given here for the kinds of things we should meditate on could serve as a list of things to look for in any verse I consider. As a result ... I developed a series of questions based upon these things.
But while much of our meditation begins with Scripture and then applies to life, it is also valid to begin by meditating on something in your life and then taking that to Scripture. You might reflect, for example, on the possible reasons God allowed something to happen to you, but then ultimately submit your thoughts to the sound foundation of Scripture, such as a text like Psalm 31:14-15.
In either case, that is, whether meditating on something in your life -- an event, an experience, an encounter with someone, even a part of creation -- or whether meditating on a verse or story in the Bible, the Philippians 4:8 questions can be a helpful guide. In fact, when thinking about anything, try asking:
  • What is true about this, or what truth does it exemplify?
  • What is honorable about this?
  • What is right about this?
  • What is pure about this, or how does it exemplify purity?
  • What is lovely about this?
  • What is admirable, commendable, or reputation strengthening about this?
  • What is excellent about this (in other words, excels others of this kind)?
  • What is praiseworthy about this?"

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Mothers Day


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Mother's Day is Sunday, and I wanted to post some quick ideas for showing your mom know how much you love her!
Here is a recipe for blueberry streusel muffins that I love to make ahead. I usually put them in foil wrap in the oven and set the timer so that they will be nice and warm when we wake up in the morning.

Blueberry Streusel Muffins

Ingredients:
1/2 cup butter, softened
3/4 cup white sugar
2 eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
2 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup milk
1 1/2 cups blueberries

2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
2 tablespoons brown sugar
1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon
2 tablespoons butter, chilled
Directions:
1.Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Grease muffin cups or line with paper muffin liners.
2.In a large bowl, cream together the butter and sugar until light and fluffy. Stir in the eggs one at a time, beating well with each addition, then stir in the vanilla. In a separate bowl, stir together 2 cups flour, baking powder, and salt.
3.Stir the flour mixture into egg mixture alternately with milk. Fold in blueberries. Spoon batter into prepared muffin cups. In a small bowl, mix together 2 tablespoons flour, brown sugar and cinnamon. Cut in butter until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Sprinkle topping over unbaked muffins.
4.Bake in preheated oven for 25 to 30 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into the center of a muffin comes out clean.
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You may want to prepare a tray table with a cloth napkin and a sparkling glass of juice. Her muffin will of course have been sliced and smeared with butter or her favorite spread. While she is eating, you can prepare her a steaming mug of coffee or tea. Put her Bible or her devotional book on the tray too, and then shut the door and let her enjoy.

Monday, April 27, 2009

Single and....Happy?


Bethany asked about being prepared for singleness if that is God's will. I think that at some point in our lives, we girls have asked ourselves this question. Do feelings of insecurity and jealousy plague you as you watch close friends happy in relationships? To me, it's always a reminder of my own singleness. Over time, I have been able to push past these feelings even though they still creep in once in a while.

All throughout my teen years, I caught myself daydreaming about the special young man who would one day come into my life and sweep me off my feet. As I continued to dwell on this, the more discontent I became. I still have to check myself when I get carried away with my thoughts. As my mom likes to tell me, I'm the hopeless romantic, especially after watching a Jane Austen or Elizabeth Gaskell movie. Are these thoughts OK to have? I think so. It is Godly to have that desire to be a wife and mom. I can't wait for the day the man that God has created for me comes into my life. But if these thoughts take our minds off what is truly important-Jesus Christ-then there is a problem. I have been guilty of this, and I'm sure you can relate.

Over the past year, these feelings of discontentment have gradually faded as I have grown closer to Christ. I truly believe that I can be happy being single if that is what God has for me. He is all I need to be fulfilled. No man, no matter how handsome, Godly, and attentive, can fill that gap in my heart like Jesus can. Remember when Job, instead of cursing God, gave praise when nearly everything was taken away from him? I always wondered how I would react in a situation like that, and to be honest, I don't think I would act as Job. Although Job felt a keen loss when his family was killed, he was able to push past his grief and bless his Heavenly Father. That is true love and devotion.

“ Naked I came from my mother’s womb,

And naked shall I return there.

The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away;

Blessed be the name of the LORD.”

In all this Job did not sin nor charge God with wrong.

Job 1:20-22


In 1 Corinthians 7:1-9, Paul discusses marriage and singleness. In verses 7-8, Paul expresses his desire that "all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that...it is good for them (referring to the widows and unmarried) if they remain even as I am." I know this sounds silly, but when I was younger and I would read this passage, I always thought Paul was bitter because he wasn't married himself. As I matured, I gradually realized what Paul meant. I think we all know how distracted young people in love can get, and married couples are easily sidetracked by busy schedules, financial burdens, and family obligations. A single Christian man or woman can serve God more freely without any of these distractions as well as building on his or her relationship with Him. Look at the ministry Paul had-he was able to travel and reach out to countless Christians in the churches without feeling guilty for leaving his family behind.

No matter what God has in store for you and me-whether it be singleness or marriage-know that He loves you with an everlasting love. We can serve God as single and married women and be perfectly content in both situations-if our hearts are right with God. Gladys Aylward and Amy Carmichael never got married, but I can't think of two women who served God with such a passion as these two. They loved God so strongly that they risked their lives for His sake and the sake of others. So Bethany, I hope I've answered your question. I struggle with this area as well, and I'm still learning a lot. Girls, I would love to hear your thoughts on this if you have any to add!

In Christ,
Sara

"Blessed are the single-hearted, for they shall enjoy much peace. If you refuse to be hurried and pressed, if you stay your soul on God, nothing can keep you from that clearness of spirit which is life and peace. In that stillness you will know what His will is."

~Amy Carmichael