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The Garden of Friendship: Great Blog Post

2009-09-25T19:19:00.000-07:00

We used to water those gardens oh-so-frequently, but we haven't talked about our friendships in a while.

This link is from Growing in Grace Online, and the post is entitled: What Happened to the Friendship?

Enjoy!

We've Been Away

2009-08-26T11:15:00.000-07:00

Well, um .... hello! We have been enjoying our summer a little too much I think. Sara and I have been busy this summer and have just not been able to keep up with our little corner of blogland. I hope to get back here in a few weeks, after I get settled into the routine of homeschooling my little one for preschool. Sara will be starting hygiene school and will be very busy, so we'll be happy to hear from her whenever she gets a spare moment. I told her not to worry about blogging while she gets acclimated to her new school.
Hope you are enjoying your summer. We'll be back!!

A Lesson from Daniel

2009-07-29T13:24:00.000-07:00

I'm sitting here, paging through my Bible. I have been studying the book of Daniel because our church is having VBS soon, and this is the theme for the week.

Most children know the story of Daniel and the Lion's Den. It is probably one of the most popular Bible Stories! But as I sit here reminding myself of the details, I am just feeling so thankful for the way God orchestrates the details of our lives.

Consider Daniel, taken from his home to serve the king, and given another name. All unfortunate events, if you look at them at face value.

But God as always was controlling all the little details - those details that would come together for the good of His child.

There are times in our lives when we feel anxious and insecure about the little details that we can't control.

How thankful we should be that we are not in control, and that a loving, merciful Father is teaching us and molding us.

His Time. His Purpose. His Glory.

It is as simple as that.

How thankful I am.

Summer Reading-The Tenant of Wildfell Hall

2009-07-18T11:01:00.000-07:00

I know, it's been awhile since the last post. Summer has been busy and gone way too fast! I hope you are all enjoying the warmer weather and the fun times this season brings with it. A couple months ago I read The Tenant of Wildfell Hall by Anne Bronte, and I've been waiting for the chance to sit down and share my thoughts on it. I was very surprised that I loved this book so much, because the Bronte sisters have a style that leans more toward the morose, depressing side. While The Tenant of Wildfell Hall is very dark in some parts, it also contains many Biblical truths and deals with a situation we girls can really learn from. I'd LOVE for all of you to go out and read the book, so let me warn you now, I'm going to be giving away some spoilers in the next few paragraphs (but not too many I hope!).

Let's begin with Gilbert Markham, a simple farmer with a cozy country family. He lives with his mother, sister Rose, and impish brother Fergus. He has no doubt in his mind that he will marry the pretty but spoiled and selfish Eliza Millward, the daughter of the town's pastor. That is, until the mysterious widow Helen Graham and her son move into Wildfell Hall-a secluded old home in the town. Soon the young widow becomes the target of speculation and gossip as the townspeople attempt to figure out her past before she moved into the Hall. Gilbert is immediately turned off by Helen's stiff and severe personality. Trying to befriend her young son, Arthur, he notes how over-protective she is of him and goes to great lengths to keep him out of society. An accomplished artist, Helen Graham makes her living in the world by painting beautiful landscapes-but all these are painted under an alias.

By winning the trust of little Arther, Gilbert slowly begins to find a place in the heart of the mysterious Mrs. Graham. Soon the shallow Eliza Millward means nothing to him as he finds himself taken in by Helen's deep thoughts and character. Although the two define their relationship as a brother and sister, Gilbert begins to feel much more for Helen, and attempts to tell her of these new feelings. Everytime the subject is brought up, she expresses how impossible it is for them to even think such thoughts, leaving Gilbert curious and perplexed. Another mysterious person in the plot is Mr. Lawrence, the landlord of Wildfell Hall, and a much too frequent visitor at the place. As nasty rumors begin to spread about Helen Graham's past, Gilbert is the first to rise to her defense. However, a confusing circumstance leads him to believe the worst of her, and he to forsakes her.

Unfortunately, Gilbert makes some serious mistakes and acts out of anger and even violence. Helen confronts him with his strange and sudden behavior, and as he expresses what he believes is the truth, she gives him a window into her past life-her very detailed journal. What Gilbert finds in Helen's diary surprises him very much, and more than 50% of The Tenant of Wildfell Hall consists of her journal entries until the last few chapters. It sounds like this would be boring, but it's not. It's so intriguing learning about Helen's life from her viewpoint (the first and last part of the book is from Gilbert's) that I found it hard to put the book down!

*Some spoilers ahead, but I'll try not to be too detailed!*

As Gilbert sits down to read this very long narrative, he is introduced to a very young Helen. She lives with her aunt and uncle because her mother is dead and her father is too busy to raise her. Helen also tells us that she has a brother, but they to live in different locations. Being somewhat close to her aunt, Helen has meaningful conversations with her, especially ones about marriage. Her aunt asks her if she ever thinks about matrimony, and Helen responds that she does, but thinks there are very few men that she should like to marry. Although Helen's aunt is not perfect and does not always choose the best suitors for her, she gives some sound advice.

(To Helen)"Keep a guard over your eyes and ears as the inlets of your heart, and over your lips as the outlet, lest they betray you in a moment of unwariness...First study; then approve; then love."-Helen's aunt.

(To her aunt)"I know there is truth and sense in what you say; but you need not fear me, for I not only should think it wrong to marrya man that was deficient in sense or in principle, but I should never be tempted to do it; for I could not like him, if he were ever so handsome, and ever so charming, in other respects...So set your mind at rest."-Helen.

However, one man enters Helen's life and turns it upside down. He is the young and charming Arthur Hungtingdon, who steals her heart and dismisses all her previous thoughts on men who are "deficient in sense and principle". At parties and social events, Arthur Hungtingdon shows Helen profuse attention, which flatters her even more. Helen's aunt begins to fear this young man's attentions, and continues in her warnings to her niece.

"Do you remember, Helen, our conversation the night but one before we left Staningley?"
"Yes, aunt."
"And do you remember how I warned you against letting your heart be stolen from you by those unworthy of its possession...and did you you not say that your affection must be founded on approbation; and that unless you could approve and honour and respect, you could not love?"
"Yes, but I do approve, honour, and respect---"
"How so, my dear? Is Mr. Hungtingdon a good man?"
"He is a much better man than you think him."
"Is he a good man?"
"Yes--in some respects. He has a good disposition."
"Is he a man of principle?"
"Perhaps not, exactly; but it is only for want of thought: if he had some one to advise him, and remind him of what is right."

Does any of this conversation sound familiar to you? Have you heard friends who have said this, or have you yourself spoken words similar to these? It's funny how our past ideas on relationships can change when a young man enters into our lives. Helen is absolutely glowing in the attentions of Mr. Hungtingdon. Believing herself to be in love, she thinks she can change all of Arthur's imperfections and impish bevavior.

Arthur Hungtingdon continues to pursue Helen, but teases her cruelly by pretending to be in love with someone else. She is hurt by his fickle attentions, but it's a clear warning to her as well. However, Helen doesn't take this as a warning when Arthur declares his love for her and asks for her hand in marriage. Overwhelmed with joy and happiness, Helen says she will accept if her uncle and aunt approve. They do eventually permit the match, although Helen's aunt is still wary of Arthur. He agrees to go to church with the family, and Helen delightedly takes this as a sign of spiritual maturity (even though he scribbles on his note pad through most of the sermon). Another warning bell goes off for Helen when Arthur reveals his true character. In a conversation with her, he unashamedly refers not only to gambling, but to leading his friend to drowning his sorrows in drinking alcohol. Helen is appalled and begins to rethink her decision, but still decides to marry Arthur.

After her marriage to Arthur, Helen is happy and content, but reveals that he is not the young man she thought him at first. He is wilful, conceited, and used to getting his own way. Helen, blindly in love, strives to please him. After a few more months, Arthur begins to show more of his true colors as he grows tired of the country life. He teases Helen unmercifully and shows immaturity, and the procession only goes from bad to worse. His so-called friends are drunks and lazy, and Helen has to put up with their visits from time to time. The next couple of years are absolute misery for her, and even the bearing of their son does nothing to bring them closer as husband and wife.

There is so much more I could write, but I know I've already written more than I had planned! So I will stop here, and even though I have revealed much of the plot, there is SO much more to the story, and I really encourage you to get a copy from the library. Throughout The Tenant of Wildfell Hall, I couldn't help but think how so many girls today make this very same mistake when they marry men whom they claim they can change after the marriage. As girls we have to be so careful, because we are more weak and vulnerable when it comes to our emotions. It's so easy to say that we'll be strong and able to resist a handsome man who shows romantic interest. Do you struggle with this? Sometimes I do, especially when I was younger. Helen had plenty of warning, but she still insisted upon marrying Arthur, and she was miserable for it later on. What I really loved about Helen though was her constant trust and faith in God. Although she didn't make very wise choices at the beginning, Helen knew that she could lean on Him through these trials.

Toward the end of the book, after Arthur has read Helen's journal and goes to visit her, he repents of his misconduct and begs her forgiveness. He still feels a romatic attraction to her, but Helen knows how wrong it is for her to give her love to him. At this point she thinks it is impossible for them to ever be together except in Heaven, but Gilbert is heartbroken and can't even bear the thought. Helen gives a beautiful illustration to him to make him better understand from her point of view.

"I do know that to regret the exchange of earthly pleasures for the joys of Heaven, is as if the grovelling caterpillar should lament that it must one day quit the nibbled leaf to soar aloft and flutter through the air, roving at will from flower to flower, sipping sweet honey from their cups, or basking in their sunny petals. If these little creatures knew how great a change awaited them, no doubt they would regret it; but would not all such sorrow be misplaced?"

This is one of my favorite quotes in the book; it shows how strong Helen's faith is even when she is feeling deep sorrow. It very much reminds me of Jane Eyre when she is explaining to Mr. Rochester why she cannot be with him after finding out about his wife. These are strong character traits that I hope I can show when faced with a difficult decision. When I first picked up this book from the libary, I never thought it would make me think so much. Out of all the Bronte sisters, I knew the littlest about Anne, but now I am excited to check out her other works. So girls, if you're looking for yet another book to add to your reading list this summer, add The Tenant of Wildfell Hall. You won't be disappointed. I hope you like it as much as I did, and I'd love to hear from you if you have read it or plan to!

Love in Christ,
Sara

Honoring Our Fathers

2009-06-18T06:31:00.000-07:00

So Father's Day is coming up this weekend. Do you have anything planned? My husband sweetly made breakfast for me on Mother's Day and gave me a wonderful, restful experience. For this Father's Day, we'll be on vacation, but my mom, sis, and I are still hoping to give our men a nice day!

My Hero
As I ponder the love that I saw in his eyes,
A Godly love, given without compromise....
I recall many times that he stood by my side,
And prodded me on with great vigor and pride.
His voice ever confident, firm and yet fair,
Always speaking with patience, tenderness and care.
The power and might of his hands was so sure,
I knew there was nothing we couldn't endure.
It's true, a few others provided insight,
Yet, he laid the foundation that kept me upright.
He's the grandest of men to have lived on this earth,
Although he's not royal by stature or birth.
He's a man of great dignity, honor and strength.
His merits are noble, and of admirable length.
He's far greater than all other men that I know,
He's my Dad, he's my mentor, my friend and hero.

-Poem by Debbie Hinton Young

Here is an idea of a cake you could make for Dad. I think this is SO cute!

So happy Father's Day to my Daddy who will always be my hero, my husband - anyone would be blessed to have him as a Dad, and to my Father-in-law who has so willingly welcomed me into his family!

Imitate Christ

2009-05-27T21:32:00.000-07:00

The Lord Jesus "is altogether lovely." Then if I want to be lovely, I must be like Him, and the model for me as a Christian is Christ. Copy Jesus: "He is altogether lovely." We want to have Christ's zeal, but we must balance it with His prudence and discretion. We must seek to have Christ's love for God, and we must feel His love for men, His forgiveness of injury, His gentleness of speech, His incorruptible truthfulness, His consecration to His Father's business.

Oh, that we had all this! For depend on it--whatever other pattern we select, we have made a mistake; we are not following the true classic model of the Christian artist. Our master model is the "altogether lovely" one. How sweet it is to think of our Lord in the double aspect as our example and our Savior! Oh, when I come to my Lord Jesus, not only do I get rid of my sins, but also I see my spots in the light of His perfect character; and I am humbled and taught to follow after holiness.

~Charles Spurgeon

Ask the Philippians 4:8 Question

2009-05-15T07:39:00.000-07:00

My current devotional book is Simplify Your Spiritual Life by Donald S. Whitney. There is a short chapter on Philippians 4:8, and I thought I'd share it with you all:

"When Meditating On A Verse of Scripture, it's usually much easier to answer specific questions about it than to think about the text without any guidance or direction at all.

Recently, I was meditating on Philippians 4:8. It occurred to me that the directions given here for the kinds of things we should meditate on could serve as a list of things to look for in any verse I consider. As a result ... I developed a series of questions based upon these things.

But while much of our meditation begins with Scripture and then applies to life, it is also valid to begin by meditating on something in your life and then taking that to Scripture. You might reflect, for example, on the possible reasons God allowed something to happen to you, but then ultimately submit your thoughts to the sound foundation of Scripture, such as a text like Psalm 31:14-15.

In either case, that is, whether meditating on something in your life -- an event, an experience, an encounter with someone, even a part of creation -- or whether meditating on a verse or story in the Bible, the Philippians 4:8 questions can be a helpful guide. In fact, when thinking about anything, try asking:

What is true about this, or what truth does it exemplify?
What is honorable about this?
What is right about this?
What is pure about this, or how does it exemplify purity?
What is lovely about this?
What is admirable, commendable, or reputation strengthening about this?
What is excellent about this (in other words, excels others of this kind)?
What is praiseworthy about this?"

Mothers Day

2009-05-07T05:05:00.000-07:00

Mother's Day is Sunday, and I wanted to post some quick ideas for showing your mom know how much you love her!

Here is a recipe for blueberry streusel muffins that I love to make ahead. I usually put them in foil wrap in the oven and set the timer so that they will be nice and warm when we wake up in the morning.

Blueberry Streusel Muffins

Ingredients:
1/2 cup butter, softened
3/4 cup white sugar
2 eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
2 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup milk
1 1/2 cups blueberries

2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
2 tablespoons brown sugar
1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon
2 tablespoons butter, chilled

Directions:
1.Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Grease muffin cups or line with paper muffin liners.
2.In a large bowl, cream together the butter and sugar until light and fluffy. Stir in the eggs one at a time, beating well with each addition, then stir in the vanilla. In a separate bowl, stir together 2 cups flour, baking powder, and salt.
3.Stir the flour mixture into egg mixture alternately with milk. Fold in blueberries. Spoon batter into prepared muffin cups. In a small bowl, mix together 2 tablespoons flour, brown sugar and cinnamon. Cut in butter until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Sprinkle topping over unbaked muffins.
4.Bake in preheated oven for 25 to 30 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into the center of a muffin comes out clean.

You may want to prepare a tray table with a cloth napkin and a sparkling glass of juice. Her muffin will of course have been sliced and smeared with butter or her favorite spread. While she is eating, you can prepare her a steaming mug of coffee or tea. Put her Bible or her devotional book on the tray too, and then shut the door and let her enjoy.

Single and....Happy?

2009-04-27T18:43:00.000-07:00

Bethany asked about being prepared for singleness if that is God's will. I think that at some point in our lives, we girls have asked ourselves this question. Do feelings of insecurity and jealousy plague you as you watch close friends happy in relationships? To me, it's always a reminder of my own singleness. Over time, I have been able to push past these feelings even though they still creep in once in a while.

All throughout my teen years, I caught myself daydreaming about the special young man who would one day come into my life and sweep me off my feet. As I continued to dwell on this, the more discontent I became. I still have to check myself when I get carried away with my thoughts. As my mom likes to tell me, I'm the hopeless romantic, especially after watching a Jane Austen or Elizabeth Gaskell movie. Are these thoughts OK to have? I think so. It is Godly to have that desire to be a wife and mom. I can't wait for the day the man that God has created for me comes into my life. But if these thoughts take our minds off what is truly important-Jesus Christ-then there is a problem. I have been guilty of this, and I'm sure you can relate.

Over the past year, these feelings of discontentment have gradually faded as I have grown closer to Christ. I truly believe that I can be happy being single if that is what God has for me. He is all I need to be fulfilled. No man, no matter how handsome, Godly, and attentive, can fill that gap in my heart like Jesus can. Remember when Job, instead of cursing God, gave praise when nearly everything was taken away from him? I always wondered how I would react in a situation like that, and to be honest, I don't think I would act as Job. Although Job felt a keen loss when his family was killed, he was able to push past his grief and bless his Heavenly Father. That is true love and devotion.

“ Naked I came from my mother’s womb,

And naked shall I return there.

The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away;

Blessed be the name of the LORD.”

In all this Job did not sin nor charge God with wrong.

Job 1:20-22

In 1 Corinthians 7:1-9, Paul discusses marriage and singleness. In verses 7-8, Paul expresses his desire that "all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that...it is good for them (referring to the widows and unmarried) if they remain even as I am." I know this sounds silly, but when I was younger and I would read this passage, I always thought Paul was bitter because he wasn't married himself. As I matured, I gradually realized what Paul meant. I think we all know how distracted young people in love can get, and married couples are easily sidetracked by busy schedules, financial burdens, and family obligations. A single Christian man or woman can serve God more freely without any of these distractions as well as building on his or her relationship with Him. Look at the ministry Paul had-he was able to travel and reach out to countless Christians in the churches without feeling guilty for leaving his family behind.

No matter what God has in store for you and me-whether it be singleness or marriage-know that He loves you with an everlasting love. We can serve God as single and married women and be perfectly content in both situations-if our hearts are right with God. Gladys Aylward and Amy Carmichael never got married, but I can't think of two women who served God with such a passion as these two. They loved God so strongly that they risked their lives for His sake and the sake of others. So Bethany, I hope I've answered your question. I struggle with this area as well, and I'm still learning a lot. Girls, I would love to hear your thoughts on this if you have any to add!

In Christ,
Sara

"Blessed are the single-hearted, for they shall enjoy much peace. If you refuse to be hurried and pressed, if you stay your soul on God, nothing can keep you from that clearness of spirit which is life and peace. In that stillness you will know what His will is."

~Amy Carmichael

Being Set Apart

2009-04-13T03:52:00.000-07:00

We have no choice about being in the world. We have to shop and eat, and even if you work or school at home, you still have to make contact with the world! For Christians, we have to find the balance of being in the world without being of it. We do know this:

We are commanded to be holy.
Holiness means being set apart.
Being set apart means that we do live in this world, we need to be respectful of others, but we must be different.

When I was a college student and in the work world, I used to ask myself if my colleagues would know that I was different without me telling them. There were times when I had to speak up and speak out (not in my nature I assure you!) There were other times when nothing needed to be said. I just needed to remember this verse:

"For of Him and through Him and to Him are all things, to whom be glory forever. Amen." Romans 11:36

How can we go wrong if we hold this verse before us - ALWAYS!

But not of it is such an important phrase. This is the qualifier to the inevitability of living in our world today and being exposed to all the influences of it. How can we be IN the world, rub noses with people that live in it, but still be holy and reflect holiness? This is something we need to continuously strive for in every aspect of our lives.

Laura asked about being unequally yoked with unbelievers, both male and female. I think we'd all agree that this isn't always easy.

Personality -wise, I am very outgoing, and I like to have friends. Sometimes at college, I had to be okay with being alone. I found myself a nice group of friends that I felt comfortable with, and that respected my beliefs. They knew that there were certain things I wouldn't do. They were ok with that. I was a commuter student, so I wasn't exposed to some of the temptations that dorm life brought.

There were a couple of times that I was asked "out" by a young man, and other times that I could tell that a guy was pointedly flirting with me. Girls, I hate to hurt others feelings! My parents had to help me learn how to hold myself separate from these interactions. There were a couple of times that I really needed their help with how to deal with a situation.

Once you start opening yourself to intimate interactions (by intimate I mean close and binding) with people that are too different from you, it becomes easier and easier to continue to do so. Little by little you may be opening yourself more without even realizing it.

I had a wonderful college experience. Late afternoon study sessions, squinting over immunology and organic chemistry flash cards until we could barely see. Fun lunches at the Community Commons. Oceanography and Conservation Biology field trips. Sweating over our Senior Seminar speeches. So you see, I wasn't slinking around or hiding in a corner!

I know that some do not agree with going to college outside of the home, and I'm not here to discuss that, although I truly do understand!! I both went to college and worked outside of the home before I met my husband and got married. There were many times that I was so thankful that I had a hedge of protection.

We don't all come from the same backgrounds. I can't pretend to know what your family make up is. My parents are strong Christians and we have an excellent and open relationship. If you have this -- please, by all means, take advantage of it.

Listen to the wise counsel of your parents, for they are sent by God. This is a hedge of protection.

Fellowship with the believers that you attend church with, and other likeminded believers, for this is a hedge of protection.

Be accountable to your parents, pastors, trusted friends, or any other godly influences in your life.

Stay constantly familiar with God's Word. Let His Word be always in your heart, mind, on your tongue. This is a defense against falling into temptation and a hedge of protection.

This post is getting really long! I will close now, with the possibility that we may talk more about this issue. We'll see what Sara has to add as well. If you have any more questions you would like the Girl Inside to cover on this topic, or if you have written a post on this subject, please email me!

Just stopping in quickly to share ...

2009-04-07T18:56:00.000-07:00

... a beautiful post that I just read! I love this blog that I discovered via the Ultimate Blog Party. It's called At the Well ... In Pursuit of Titus 2. I hope this post is a blessing to you.

Sara and I are working on some posts that will cover some of the topics you brought up in your Spring Giveaway Surveys. Look for those soon!

Blog Feature: Bethany

2009-04-02T05:42:00.000-07:00

I first met Bethany through her older sister Elise, who is one of my dear bloggy friends. Bethany is a very busy young lady who has a heart for the Lord. She takes incredible pictures and loves her family very much.

Bethany has three blogs:

For His Glory, which is her main blog.

The World Through a Camera Lense, which features some of her lovely photography.

Simple Tidbits of Truth, which has quotes and excerpts of books that she is reading.

By all means, go visit Bethany and peruse some of her posts. Here is one of my favorites for starters:

Created To Be Their Helpmeet

Congratulations Bethany!

2009-03-31T06:10:00.000-07:00

Last night, my husband picked Bethany's name out of a bag, so she is the winner of our Spring Giveaway! Congratulations, Bethany. Please contact me with your home address. Bethany's blogs will be featured on The Girl Inside in our next post, and she will receive the book Set Apart Femininity by Leslie Ludy!

Here is the link to Bethany's answers to our survey for your reading pleasure.

Giveaway!

2009-03-28T19:42:00.001-07:00

Just so all of you know, the winner will be announced Tuesday, March 31st! The winner of the contest will get the book Set Apart Femininity as well as their blog featured on The Girl Inside!

Book Review: Set-Apart Femininity

2009-03-18T16:58:00.000-07:00

There are few books that leave a great impression on me after I've read them-Set-Apart Feminity is one of the few that have. The author, Leslie Ludy, has a heart for the girls of this generation, and brings a message that young women desperately need to hear. In her previous book, Authentic Beauty, the running theme throughout was to remain pure in a society that only mocks at such a thing called purity. Also, a relationship with the "Prince", Jesus Christ, is greatly encouraged, and Leslie continuously brings out the point that He is truly all we need.

In Set-Apart Femininity, Leslie continues to build on these two points, but goes even further. Referring back to several experiences in her public school, she learned many lessons the hard way, and witnessed the flimsy pop culture that took hold of herself and her classmates. Parents of younger girls may want to be cautioned, as some of the information Leslie shares features more mature content.

The extensive chapter on prayer really got my attention, and has encouraged me to be more fervent in my prayer life. Leslie speaks boldly on issues concerning the media and how it can draw our minds away from our Heavenly King. Her call is for girls to embrace a sacred femininity-the kind of femininity that makes Amy Carmichaels and Gladys Aylwards-women who gave their all for the glory of Christ. A review on Amazon sums up some of the major points of this book:

surrender to God’s love and wholeness
embrace the real blueprint for beauty
enjoy spectacular purpose
captivate the masculine heart
cultivate spiritual strength

I felt convicted and ready to change some things in my life after reading this book-I hope you will have the same experience as well. I have begun viewing things in a different light after reading Set-Apart Femininity. My contentment and love for Christ have grown stronger, and I have seen even more how He is a powerful God who deserves all our praise and adoration.

So whoever wins this giveaway, enjoy Set-Apart Femininity. It truly is a life-changing book. Although it is a hard road to take, and I struggle with this daily, I want to be among the set-apart who make a difference for Christ. Do you?

Have you entered our giveaway?

2009-03-17T08:29:00.000-07:00

Go here to find out how!

Spring Getting To Know You Giveaway - Part Three

2009-03-14T17:49:00.000-07:00

Hello! Here are Sara's answers to our survey:

1. Give us your name and age (age is optional) please don't put your last name!

Sara Elizabeth

2. Who is in your family?

My dad and mom, siblings Chris (26), Ryan (16), Melissa (14), Matt (12), and Rachel (10)

3. What is your favorite Bible verse?

Isaiah 40:31

4. Why is it your favorite?

Because of the beautiful promise it holds for those who wait on the Lord.

5. What is your favorite thing to do in your spare time?

blogging, playing the piano, scrapbooking

6. What is your biggest struggle as a woman?

Keeping myself separate from the world. It's hard to work and go to a secular school without coming to a certain point where you question everything you've ever believed in. While it's a challenge, it's also a good reminder to me to be in the world, but not of it.

7. What would you like us to talk about in the GI blog in the future?

Skip!!

8. Who is your favorite author?

C.S. Lewis, Leslie Ludy, Jane Austen (I know, I was only supposed to name one!)

9. What is your favorite Christian song or poem?

Be Thou My Vision and In Christ Alone

10. Do you have any advice for a fellow sister in Christ?

Don't ever let the world with it's trials and heartaches ever discourage you from serving and praising the Lord. He has a beautiful plan for each of us, and if we wait on Him, we will "mount up with wings like eagles, we will run and not be weary, we will walk and not faint."

Spring Getting to Know You Giveaway - Part Two

2009-03-13T14:19:00.001-07:00

This is Part Two of our Spring Giveaway Introduction. If you haven't read Part One, please do so now!

Okay, now that you know what to do, here is the survey that you need to fill out! I also wanted to add that you are invited to participate no matter what age you are. You may know a younger sister in Christ that you want to give the book to if you win it.

I'll list the questions here, and then below I will put my answers ....

1. Give us your name and age (age is optional) please don't put your last name!
2. Who is in your family?
3. What is your favorite Bible verse?
4. Why is it your favorite?
5. What is your favorite thing to do in your spare time?
6. What is your biggest struggle as a woman?
7. What would you like us to talk about in the GI blog in the future?
8. Who is your favorite author?
9. What is your favorite Christian song or poem?
10. Do you have any advice for a fellow sister in Christ?

Now my answers:

1. Give us your name and age (age is optional) please don't put your last name!
My name is Beverly, and yes, most people call me Bev. I am 28 years old.

2. Who is in your family?
My husband, my daughter Selena (2), and my daughter Shana (5 months).

3. What is your favorite Bible verse?
Romans 8:38-39

4. Why is it your favorite?
I love this passage because I can cling to it at anytime in my life and know that no matter what is going on, that NOTHING can separate me from Christ's love. What a wonderful promise!!

5. What is your favorite thing to do in your spare time?
Probably it is a cross between reading, and blogging! I usually have a mug of some sort of hot drink while doing one of the two.

6. What is your biggest struggle as a woman?
Without question it is quieting my sinful worrying nature. I need to cast ALL of my cares on Him.

7. What would you like us to talk about in the GI blog in the future?
Ummm ... this question wasn't really meant for me - but for the rest of you!!

8. Who is your favorite author?
Can I give three? I enjoy Elizabeth George, Bodie and Brock Thoene, and Louisa May Alcott.

9. What is your favorite Christian song or poem?
My favorite songs are More Love to Thee and Take My Life.

10. Do you have any advice for a fellow sister in Christ?
This is a hard one. As a mom, a big sister, and former Sunday School teacher, my advice would be to be mindful of our example to those younger then us at all times. So many younger eyes are watching us, and we definitely always want to point younger ones to Christ.

The next post will contain Sara's answers - so be looking for that!!

Spring Getting to Know You Giveaway

2009-03-13T10:47:00.000-07:00

Hi all!

Just here to announce that The Girl Inside is hosting a "Getting to Know You" Spring Giveaway!

We will be giving away one copy of Set Apart Femininity by Leslie Ludy to one of our readers!

Here's what YOU have to do:

I'll be posting a 10 question survey that will help us all get to know each other. Sara and I will answer the survey, but we won't be entering ourselves in the giveaway.

1. Answer the survey and post it on your blog.

2. Title your post: Spring Getting To Know You Giveaway

3. Link to your post using the Mr. Linky below.

4. If you sign up to follow our blog, you'll get your name entered twice. Just let us know in the comments!

5. If you are a non-blogger email me your survey, and I'll enter you.

6. This giveaway closes on Friday, March 27th!!!! The winner will be announced the following week. If you win, you'll be featured on our blog, and you will receive the book as well.

Watch for the 10 questions ... coming in my next post!!

Happy Valentine's Day!

2009-02-13T21:59:00.000-08:00

I recently read an article by a young lady who has just started coauthoring an excellent blog titled "Imperishable Beauty". I was so encouraged by the post's message on Valentine's Day, and I thought you would be too, so please read it whenever you get a chance! Here's the link: http://imperishablebeautyblog.blogspot.com/2009/02/redeeming-valentines-day.html.

Happy Valentine's Day from Beverly and Sara!

He Won't Leave Us

2009-02-06T18:46:00.000-08:00

I read this in my devotional book by Charles Spurgeon the other day and was so encouraged. I thought I would share it with you.

"Is it not a wonderful and arresting fact that while others leave us and forsake us that God never does? He says to each of His own redeemed people, "I will never leave you nor forsake you." How often do people forsake those whom they call their friends when those friends fall into poverty! The tragedies of some of these cruel forsakings! May you enver know them! Friends who once were cherished are now forgotten. In fact, the man almost pities himself to think that he should have been so unfortunate to have a friend who has fallen so low, and has no pity for his friends because he is so much occupied in pitying himself. In hundreds and thousands and tens of thousands of cases, as soon as the gold has gone, the pretended love has gone; and when the dwelling ahs been changed from the mansion to the cottage, the friendship that once promised to last forever has suddenly disappeared. But God will never leave us on account of poverty: However low we may fall, there it always stands: "I will never leave you nor forsake you." "

I was especially touched by this short devotional because I have experienced many instances where so-called friends of mine have gone out of my life. It is easy to grow bitter and angry, isn't it? And as girls, it is so easy to resort to gossiping and backbiting. I know I am guilty of this as well. Keeping our tongues from evil isn't the easiest task, but that's why prayer is so important. God can give us the patience and strength to bite our tongues and keep silent. What can be very painful and hurtful is when the gossiping is being done toward you. One day it can seem like you have a huge amount of friends, the next day they could all be gone.

Thankfully, the Lord has blessed me with a small group of sweet, Godly friends that I trust and love. But I have experienced the stinging ache of feeling slapped in the face by people I once called my friends. I think it is so comforting to know that even when the closest loved one might turn around and desert us, God is always there. His love is unconditional. He is not fickle and gossipy. He is ready to take us by the hand and walk with us through any difficulty. What an amazing God we serve!

You have my heart

And I am Yours forever

You are my strength

God of grace and power

And everything You hold in Your hand

Still You make time for me

I can't understand

Praise You God of Earth and sky

How beautiful is Your unfailing love

Unfailing love

And You never change God You remain

The Holy One

My unfailing love

Unfailing love

You are my rock

The one I hold on to

You are my song

And I sing for You

~Chris Tomlin

Quotable Quotes ...

2009-01-28T08:56:00.000-08:00

"Blessed are the single-hearted, for they shall enjoy much peace. If you refuse to be hurried and pressed, if you stay your soul on God, nothing can keep you from that clearness of spirit which is life and peace. In that stillness you will know what His will is." - -- Amy Carmichael

How often I forget to REFUSE to be hurried and pressed.

How often I NEED to be still.

Happy Birthday

2009-01-19T06:31:00.000-08:00

Happy Birthday Sara!

The Bravehearted Gospel

2009-01-07T13:53:00.000-08:00

"Once upon a time, Christianity was the stuff of legends and Christ's loyalists were spiritual and moral revolutionaries, the kinds of men and women who turned the world upside down. But over time, something has happened to that once fervent and bravehearted band who dared to be called Christians. Many today have inherited a faith that has no real life or power. Instead of zeal there is apathy. Instead of courage there is timidity. And instead of confidence there is paralyzing doubt."

"Something has to change."

~Introduction to The Bravehearted Gospel.

I've just begun to read Eric Ludy's The Bravehearted Gospel, but even though I've only gotten through the first chapter, I've already been impacted by its message. It's not any easy message to hear...I certainly was cringing while reading some phrases from the book. Am I an Amy Carmichael, rescuing young girls from slavery and prostitution in India's temples? No. Am I a Gladys Alyward, leading a group of children out of dangerous China? I don't think so. These were women who risked their lives for Christ and for others. Yet I'm afraid to simply witness to an unsaved friend.

I know that God doesn't wish all of His children to go on dangerous missions to needy countries, but I think there has been a dramatic change in the Christians of today compared to the Christians of the past. It's so easy to fit in with the rest of the world and to have our religion off to the side. I want to change this in myself, but I know it will be uncomfortable to do so. In chapter 2 of The Bravehearted Gospel, Eric Ludy discusses how Job is a man we are all afraid of being. Job lost everything he cared about, and suffered tremendously until he thought he couldn't bear it any longer.

The question is- could any of us face the challenges that Job went through? Would our faith be strong enough? I want mine to be, but I know I have a long way to go. I wish I had a more passionate fervor for God in my everyday life. By God's grace, I know He can do this work in me, but I have to be willing to let Him transform me. I have to be willing to let Him change and mold me into a braver Christian who isn't afraid of what others think. I have to be willing to be more concerned about "the girl inside" rather than "the girl outside". It's a narrow path to walk, but greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world.

What are some things you struggle with? Do you desire for a closer relationship with Christ that transforms your spiritual life and makes you more fervent for Him?

"The bravest are those who have the clearest vision of what is before them, both the glory and danger alike, and yet nevertheless, go out to meet it."--Thucydides

2008-12-25T02:38:00.000-08:00

Merry Christmas from The Girl Inside!

May you all rejoice in the birth of our Lord.

Introducing Myself

2008-12-22T19:44:00.000-08:00

Hi there! For those of you who don't know me, my name is Sara. I've had my own blog, In Christ Alone, for a little over a year now, so that might be where you've seen me. I am so excited to help Bev out as much as I can on this blog. So many issues Bev has spoken on are close to my heart, and I hope that my writings will be a reflection not only of my thoughts, but of my dear Lord and Savior. He is truly the reason for the change I have experienced in my life. I was saved at a young age (most likely around the ages of 11-12), but the Lord really started working in me when I turned 16. I am currently a sophomore in college, and I'm trying to get into a dental hygiene program at my school. If you want to know more about my life, please give me a visit at my other blog, In Christ Alone.

I am still learning many things along the way, and I am so grateful for my family and the friends God has placed in my life. They have helped me so much in my walk with Him. I pray that my words will mirror Philippians 4:8~ "Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy--meditate on these things."

Once again, I'm looking forward sharing my thoughts with you here. Now it's your turn to introduce yourself--if this is your first time visiting, please leave a comment so Bev and I can get to know you better. A blessed Christmas season to you all!

In Christ Alone,

Sara

Happy Birthday Neesie!!

2008-12-22T03:39:00.000-08:00

My beautiful sister is turning 16 today!! Please join me in wishing her a happy birthday. Neesie is 12 years younger then me, but we have always been very close. We never had to worry about the whole "sibling rivalry" thing because she was the answer to a prayer I had for years. I always wanted a sister, and God blessed me with a wonderful one!

Neesie is always willing to help - with a smile! She tolerates the constant demands of her two nieces, and the incessant teasing of her brother-in-law. ;-) All because they love you, right Neesie?

We (E, Lena, Shana and myself) are so thankful for you, and we love you very much. Happy 16th birthday. Mwah!

Welcome, Sara!

2008-12-18T05:31:00.000-08:00

Join me in welcoming my sweet friend Sara, who will now be coauthoring this blog with me!

Sara will be helping me with posting as well as coming up with new ideas for this blog. I know she will be a positive addition to The Girl Inside.

I appreciate Sara's spirit and willingness to help, as well as her commitment to our standard of Philippians 4:8.

Welcome, Sara!!

A Great Giveaway

2008-11-17T14:46:00.001-08:00

click on the button above to enter yourself to win $25 to buy something from

Christa-Taylor

There is a great interview to read too!

Oh, and if you go, please mention that I sent you ...

Congratulations to Josh and Anna!

2008-09-20T17:14:00.000-07:00

I don't know how many of you are familiar with the Duggar family, but I just found out that their oldest son, Josh, is engaged! Here is the wedding website which is very glorifying to God. It looks like it is still being developed so I can't wait to check in periodically to see what they've added!

A sermon on the subject of modesty ...

2008-08-25T17:52:00.000-07:00

Here is a link to a sermon on the subject of modesty in dress! This was preached at one of our sister churches.

I just want to mention that this is a very direct and pointed message and is definitely more appropriate for older teens and up.

This is for Kristin - on the subject of courtship :-)

2008-07-07T18:28:00.000-07:00

Kristin is a sweet online friend that I have the honor of knowing. You can go here to read a post that she just wrote recently. I told her that I would post a few tips on courtship for her, as she is going through that season of life right now! Her sister, Jaime, another online friend, wrote this post for her sister.

I've already posted our courtship story, so I won't rehash that :-) I like lists, so maybe I'll just do this by listing a few things that helped us through our courtship. I hope this helps you Kristin!! I also want to say that I was really blessed by reading your sweet story.

1. This is such an exciting time of life, but it is also filled with many temptations - physical and spiritual. Make a habit of committing every decision to prayer. Pray alone, and pray together. I know you two are already doing this!!

2. Talk, talk, talk!! We had a sort of long distance relationship, and we used our weeks to talk about anything and everything we could think of. We only saw each other on the weekends. This was such a blessing because we still talk about anything and everything.

3. We read a Christian book together - actually we read it simultaneously and discussed it on the weekends.

4. This one you've already done: become best friends. I can truly say that my husband is my very best friend. He's the one that I can "let my hair down with." I covet time with him - I just love being with him!!

5. Here's one I wish we had done: minister to others together. We occasionally helped out with church functions etc, but I wish we could have found a ministry to participate in together. I've seen other courting couples do this, and it is a wonderful foundation to build a relationship on.

6. Be mindful of others. I taught Sunday School for many years before I met my husband to be! I knew that all my former students were watching to see how we handled ourselves. You can be such a blessing in this way.

7. Courtship is a wonderful preparation for marriage. We had focused on knowing each other's hearts. The honeymoon I shared with my husband was so unbelievably amazing. Everything was fresh and new. We had just spent a wonderful day in the presence of all of our friends and family. We had waited. We had hoped. And now we were together!! I can't describe how "right" it was.

And now I must go and spend some time with this man I've been talking about. I wish you the best, Kristin. I'm sure I could think of more to say if I sat here longer, but maybe there will be other opportunities!!

Girls, I'm still here!!

2008-06-17T17:46:00.000-07:00

Oh dear. I have sadly neglected this blog - something I really didn't want to do!! All I can do is apologize. I must admit, I don't have too much free time right now. After caring for my home, husband, daughter, and NAPPING ;-), there is little time left. We are doing well, and we found out that we're having another little girl. God has been very good to us indeed.

I'll be trying to find some material for this blog in the very near future. Just wanted to check in with you all.

A Good Read

2008-04-25T06:29:00.000-07:00

I'd just like to say that it is very unusual for me to recommend a book without first reading it myself. That being said, a book has come to my attention that I may not be able to read for some time, and I didn't want to let it go without attention.

My mom just purchased this book, and she and my sister are reading it simultaneously. You can read her review here.

Gabrielle also has purchased and read the book, and has reviewed it here. If you would like to visit Ella's blog (check out my sidebar), she has already followed up with a related post as well!

You can purchase the book here.
I plan on reading this book as soon as I finish a couple others that I am currently devouring, so I will weigh in as well at a later date. Have you done a review or a post related to this book? If so, there is a Mr. Linky below where you can let us know where to find your words!

Modesty

2008-04-16T16:35:00.000-07:00

Today I went out looking for something to wear to a work function I am going to with my husband. I already knew I'd have a hard time because my belly is starting to pooch out, but I'm not quite big enough for my maternity dresses.

I was so saddened! I guess I haven't gone clothes shopping in a while. Sigh. Everything was low, short, strapless, and otherwise unacceptable.

I really like this website. There are a passel of websites with modest clothing, or patterns, if you are a sewer. There are articles about modesty as well.

Before I was married, I used to model my outfits for my dad before leaving the house in them. He was very frank about what was acceptable to wear. I am thankful for a husband who does the same for me now. Sometimes he'll make me bend over or reach up in the air to test a top before we leave the house!

How do you find modest clothing? Do you sew your own clothes?

Go Here To Read Our News

2008-04-09T04:57:00.000-07:00

There is some news on my other blog! You can read it here.

Integrity

2008-04-01T09:15:00.000-07:00

This is an excerpt from a bookette entitled From My Heart to Yours that I wrote when I was still in college.

This is on the subject of integrity. I start with an excerpt from Jane Eyre.

"Jane, you understand what I want of you? Just this promise - 'I will be yours, Mr. Rochester,'"

"Mr Rochester, I will not be yours."

"Jane! Jane, do you mean to go one way in the world, and let me go another?"

"I do."

"Jane" (bending down and embracing me), "do you mean it now?"

"I do." -- extricating myself from restraint rapidly and completely.

"O Jane, this is bitter! This - this is wicked. It would not be wicked to love me."

"It would to obey you."

A wild look raised his brows -- crossed his features: he rose, but he forbore yet. I laid my hand on the back of a chair for support: I shook, I feared -- but I resolved."

"One instant, Jane. Give one glance to my horrible life when you are gone. All happiness will be torn away with you. What then is left? For a wife I have but the maniac upstairs: as well might you refer me to some corpse in yonder churchyard. What shall I do Jane? Where turn for a companion, and for some hope?"

"Do as I do: trust in God ... Believe in heaven. Hope to meet again there."

From Jane Eyre
Charolotte Bronte

From My Heart To Yours:

You may not know the story of Jane Eyre. If you do not, I would encourage you to read it. How many of us have the integrity that Jane had? She had a very unhappy life, but when she had one opportunity for happiness she chose to do what was right rather than to do what she wished.

You see, friend, sometimes when we are faced with difficult situations, the right thing is often the hardest! We must have the integrity to do what is right even in these cases. Only then can we have true joy. How far are we willing to go to follow the commands of the Lord?

Oftentimes,doing so will mean loneliness and ridicule. Are we still willing then, or just when it is easy? We have no choice as Christians. We MUST obey in all circumstances that occur in our lives. True Christian joy and peace will follow.

Proverbs 10:9 tells us:
"He who walks with integrity walks securely, But he who perverts his ways will become known."

And Galatians 6:9 says:
"And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap, if we do not lose heart."

I'm back with pictures!

2008-03-17T15:42:00.000-07:00

We had a wonderful vacation, and last week I wanted to post, but found myself disorganized and needing to get myself back into the swing of things. Then Lena got pretty sick and needed a lot of extra attention.

Here are some pictures of our time ... sorry if you've already seen my other blog ... there's an overlap.

The first night, Lena slept with us because we hadn't borrowed our friend's crib yet. Hubby and I barely slept because we have a very wild sleeper for a daughter!

Lena's first carousel ride was at the zoo. She loved it - and I actually did too!

Lena got a chance to feed the ducks at the zoo.

Lena "read" the whole week long - wherever we went - she had a book or five!

Lena and my husband - she is about to get kissed!

Going Away for a While ...

2008-02-25T18:39:00.000-08:00

Hello girls,
We are going away soon on a family vacation, and so I'll be back in a couple of weeks with some pictures!

lots of love!!!!

Sit Still

2008-02-13T11:43:00.001-08:00

Girls, I know that you have the righteous desire to be godly wives one day. I remember, because as I got into my late teens and early twenties, that very desire grew and grew within me. At times like Valentine's Day, or if I attended a wedding, or saw a romantic movie etc. it was so easy to lose focus. A reminder to guard our eyes, minds and hearts!

My mom sent me this wonderful devotional, thinking it might benefit you girls, and I agree. The poem is beautiful - and true.

This devotional is taken from Streams in the Desert by Mrs. Charles E Cowman.

Sit Still
"Ye shall not go out with haste" (Isa. 52:12).
I do not believe that we have begun to understand the marvelous power there is in stillness. We are in such a hurry--we must be doing--so that we are in danger of not giving God a chance to work. You may depend upon it, God never says to us, "Stand still," or "Sit still," or "Be still," unless He is going to do something.

This is our trouble in regard to our Christian life; we want to do something to be Christians when we need to let Him work in us. Do you know how still you have to be when your likeness is being taken?

Now God has one eternal purpose concerning us, and that is that we should be like His Son; and in order that this may be so, we must be passive. We hear so much about activity, may be we need to know what it is to be quiet. --Crumbs

Sit still, my daughter! Just sit calmly still!

Nor deem these days--these waiting days--as ill!

The One who loves thee best, who plans thy way,

Hath not forgotten thy great need today!

And, if He waits, 'tis sure He waits to prove

To thee, His tender child, His heart's deep love.

Sit still, my daughter! Just sit calmly still!

Thou longest much to know thy dear Lord's will!

While anxious thoughts would almost steal their way

Corrodingly within, because of His delay

Persuade thyself in simple faith to rest

That He, who knows and loves, will do the best.

Sit still, my daughter! Just sit calmly still!

Nor move one step, not even one, until His way hath opened.

Then, ah then, how sweet!

How glad thy heart, and then how swift thy feet

Thy inner being then, ah then, how strong!

And waiting days not counted then too long.

Sit still, my daughter! Just sit calmly still!

What higher service could'st thou for Him fill?

'Tis hard! ah yes! But choicest things must cost!

For lack of losing all how much is lost!

'Tis hard, 'tis true! But then--He giveth grace

To count the hardest spot the sweetest place.--J. D. Smith

Thank You

2008-02-07T09:12:00.000-08:00

I was humbled to see that sweet Ella had passed this award on to the Girl Inside Blog. To God be the glory! I was very happy because this gives me a chance to let you girls know how much I appreciate your blogs and your hearts for the Lord. I wish I could pass the award back to Ella, but the rules say that it has to be given to someone who hasn't received it before! I hope I'm not breaking the rules too much, but I would like to pass this on to four special ladies ;-)

1. My sister Neesie has a new Blogger blog, and I have been very blessed by her compassion for others, and her needed reminders ... like this post! Love you, Sis!!

2. Sara is another dear sister in Christ. I've appreciated her posts on Hinds Feet on High Places, and also her thoughful posts like this one!

3. Beth has such a peaceful blog. She takes beautiful pictures and she always reminds us to love the hymns of the faith. Here is one of my favorites!

4. Laura is such a sweet girl. Her blog is so honest and sincere. This post about her Grandpa really touched me.

So there you have it -- and enjoy reading the four posts I picked out too. Have a wonderful weekend, girls. I have a poem I want to post for you, but that will have to wait until next week.

Oh - I also wanted to say that I know you are all extremely busy with school and family life, so if you don't have time to pass this award on - I will not be offended at all!

The Garden of Friendship - Unto edification

2008-01-31T14:31:00.000-08:00

Time to spruce up those gardens again! One of the things that is very important in a Christian friendship is that each individual is committed to edifying the other! The American Heritage Dictionary defines edify: To instruct especially so as to encourage intellectual, moral, or spiritual improvement.

It is wonderful to enjoy your friends, to have long conversations and to do fun things together, but our friendships as women of God should have a deeper purpose ...

...to build up and encourage in the things of the Lord.

Here are some Scriptures on that very subject. I'm using the NKJV here:

"Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers." Eph 4:29

"Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another." Romans 14:19

"... Let all things be done for edification." I Cor 14:26

Of course, our favorite verse fits in here so well. Philippians 4:8 "Finally brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy -- meditate on these things."

I think that if we are with our friends, and we are careful to speak of and focus on things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous and praiseworthy, that we will speak unto edification -- will we not? If we are consistently meditating on these things, we will surely speak of them.

Just a reminder for all of us - yes, me too - to think about.

Tidbits From my Journal

2008-01-16T17:56:00.000-08:00

I found these quotes nestled in the pages of one of my journals. The date was February 27, 1999. I was nineteen at the time, and in the"middle of a very stressful week..." when these quotes spoke to my heart, so I thought you might benefit from them too.

"It is Saturday. I had to write down a quote from A Woman that Feareth the Lord by Emalyn Spencer. 'J.C. Ryle says that true holiness is a great reality. It is something in a man that can be seen, and known, and marked, and felt by all around him. It is light, if it exists, it will show itself. It is salt, if it exists, its savour will be perceived. It is precious ointment, if it exists, its presence cannot be hid.'"

"A godly woman knows how to listen lovingly, patiently, and attentively, and her responses will be thoughtful and concerned, demonstrating genuine interest."

"The law of kindness cannot be present in the tongue, unless the law of love exists in the heart."

Soon!

2008-01-14T12:47:00.001-08:00

Girls,

I'll be back soon with a post, I promise! Just wanted you guys to know I am thinking of you!

My wish for all of you ...

2007-12-13T05:55:00.000-08:00

Dearest girls,

This Christmas, I wish for you ...

... a renewed appreciation for the gift of Him.

... happy times with friends and family.

... cozy days with a blanket, something hot to drink and a good book.

... many opportunities to bless others as you continually bless me.

Lots of love,

bev

see you after Christmas

One of those Weeks ...

2007-12-04T17:47:00.000-08:00

Have you ever had one of those "off" weeks? I am having one this week. For example, today I attempted to make bread as I try to do once a week. I let the dough rise, and punched it down. Then I shaped it into loaves and let it rise again. It looked delicious and smelled even better. However, when I opened the oven to look at my masterpiece, it had risen to an almost gargantuan size. It was ruined.

One thing after another seemed to happen today, and I must admit that I was getting discouraged! Its been a tough week - you can read more about that at my other blog.

What should I have done? I should have stopped and prayed. I should have remembered Isaiah 40:31. I should have whispered Galatians 6:9 to myself.

What did I do? I am ashamed to say that I hid. I put Lena in her crib with a basket of books for quiet time, and I ran downstairs to wrap myself in my cozy blanket. It was only after I spent 10 minutes stewing about all the things that needed to be done, that I remembered...

To pray.
To ask forgiveness from the Lord.
To recall His promises.
To laugh at myself.
To fold up that blanket and start tackling the things I needed to do.

So my dear sister - friends, as you deal with schoolwork, other commitments, difficulties and trials, remember to reflect on His promises. He is faithful.

May We Praise Him

2007-11-21T04:42:00.000-08:00

Wishing all of you a happy thanksgiving.

We will be busy the next few days. I must clean from top to bottom today. Tomorrow we head to relatives to celebrate with them, and friday we are having a friendly football game between the men of our church and another. Everyone is then coming to our house. Saturday I hope to take down all my fall decorations and put up winter ones.

What are you doing this weekend?

The Garden of Friendship - Gossip

2007-11-07T13:58:00.000-08:00

I think that as women, one of our biggest sins is misuse of our mouths. Whether you are by nature talkative or quiet, you may deal with the temptation to gossip with your friends and aquaintances. So many times I recall a conversation I had and wonder, "was that gossip?"

Will you join me in reflecting on a few points that may help us with this tendency? I need this too!

1. Gossip may often be disguised as, "we need to pray for ..." Using the need for prayer as a reason to talk about someone else's personal business is not okay. I know I have done this, and I am heartily ashamed. There are times when it is legitimate to bring up a situation as a prayer request. Pray that God will give you wisdom in this matter.

2. Be a secret keeper. It is sooooo easy to "let it slip." When friends tell you something in confidence, carefully guard their information. I would like to add that it is okay to let a secret out is when someone tells you something that could seriously harm them. We shouldn't glibly promise to keep a secret when we know we can't. In that situation, it is proper to inform the person that if they do not share their information with someone they trust, you may have to. "A talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter." Prov 11:13

3. Gossip is sinful. This sin is not to be taken lightly. Our speech is to be always with grace, seasoned with salt. (Col 4:6) Is what we are saying helpful and edifying? Does it lift another up or tear down?

4. Be humble. Don't be afraid to go back after having an unwise conversation and apologize to the friend you had it with. This is pleasing to God, and it may help your friends to think twice before giving in to gossip. "The words of a talebearer are like tasty trifles, and they go down into the inmost body." Prov 26:22

Any other thoughts on this subject? I could go on and on, but time doesn't permit. How do you avoid gossip?

Pumpkin Bread Recipe

2007-10-24T05:39:00.000-07:00

Sorry I have taken so long to post and to update myself on your lovely blogs. For some reason, our laptop has suddenly decided not to work on our network. Until we get that fixed, I can't be online as much because I'd be sitting in our office all day and not getting anything else accomplished!

I wanted to share a recipe with you.

I just made this, and believe me -- it is soooooo yummy! The best thing about this recipe is that you can eat some and still have plenty to share!

This yields 3 loaves ...

Here's what you need:

3 cups white sugar
4 eggs
2/3 cup water
2 teaspoons baking soda
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon ground allspice
3 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons salt
1 teaspoon ground nutmeg
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon ground cloves
1 (15 ounce) can pumpkin puree
1 cup chopped walnuts
1 cup raisins
1 cup vegetable oil

I always make my breads without raisins and nuts, but it is still super yummy.

Here's what you do -- so easy!

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease and flour three 7 x 3 inch loaf pans.
Mix oil, sugar, and eggs together in a large bowl. Mix in pumpkin puree and water. Stir together flour, soda, baking powder, salt, and spices. Add to the pumpkin mixture, and mix until just combined. Stir in nuts and raisins. Divide batter into prepared pans.
Bake for 1 hour. Cool on wire racks.

I got some foil pans at the store so I could give a couple of loaves away, and they took about 15 minutes longer to cook. Check the bread after an hour and make sure it's done.

Recipe from allrecipes.com

The Garden of Friendship - Helping Others

2007-10-12T16:59:00.000-07:00

This is more of a thank you post then an exhortation! Some of you I know personally, and others I know from "blog-land." I have seen the servant's hearts that you have.

One of the ways that we can be good friends is to find little helpful things to do that will make our friend's lives easier.

This post is about my sister, but of course she is my friend as well.

Right now, hubby is very busy and has to be away overnight at times. This is a difficult season for our little family even though it is temporary. I don't like being home alone overnight, and our little daughter misses her Daddy and is sad when he isn't there to tuck her in. We know that he is doing this for the good of our whole family and that it is hard for him too. We only have eight weeks left - Yippee!! God has been faithful as always.

But I digress. My sister has been sweet enough to come over and stay with us when hubby is away. This makes life very happy and we look forward to our "girlie" weekends. I don't know how she puts up with Selena saying "hi dee-dee" over and over and over. And over.

see the smile on Lena's face?

So thank you so much Neesie, for helping us through this season of life. We are going to have so much fun pumpkin picking tomorrow.

Sixteenth Birthday Party

2007-10-02T20:24:00.000-07:00

I wanted to share with you the idea of a Proverbs 31 birthday party. My parents had one for me when I turned sixteen, and the effects were far reaching.

Unbeknownst to me, each invited guest was to give me a gift based on one of the verses in Proverbs 31:10-31. Each gift was to be for my hopechest, and was to be saved for the future (for marriage if God so blessed me).

I still have the cards and gifts that were given to me ...

For example:
verse 15 "She also rises while it is yet night ..." I received a beautiful porcelain clock.
verse 16 "She considers a field and buys it..." I recieved a lovely couch throw with embroidered seed packets on it.
verse 18 "... her lamp does not go out by night." I received an elegant crystal lamp, and two pairs of candlesticks -- one brass and one crystal.
verse 21 "...for all her household is clothed with scarlet. She makes tapestry for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple." I received some absolutely lovely purple material and a sewing box.

These are just some of the things I received on that birthday. I also received a gorgeous apron, some cookbooks, vases, and even a set of dishes! It was such a surprise - I knew about the party but not the Proverbs 31/hopechest theme.

Everyone wrote out the verse that they were representing with their gift, and a note to me. These things are reflected all around my home today. People kept up with the theme for future gifts for me also.

When I got married, it was so exciting to take out each carefully wrapped item and show my husband the things I had saved for our future home. I also remember that when we had secured an apartment that we would live in, and my mom and I went to start cleaning and moving in, that I was able to decorate with table scarves, candles and doilies right away.

Do you have any memorable party ideas? If so, leave it in a comment or email me at joyousmommie@girlinside.com.

How God Brought Us Together - Part Three

2007-09-24T18:20:00.000-07:00

Ecclesiastes 4:12 A cord of three strands is not easily broken.

"A threefold cord is not easily broken, any more than a bundle of arrows, though each single thread and each single arrow is. Two together he compares to a threefold cord; for where two are closely joined in holy love and fellowship, Christ will by His spirit come to them, and make the third, as He joined Himself to the two disciples going to Emmaus, and then there is a threefold cord that can never be broken. They that dwell in love, dwell in God and God in them."
-Matthew Henry-(the above is an excerpt from our wedding program)

It was Saturday the 25th of September 2004. At one o' clock in the afternoon, an expectant groom walked to the front of the sanctuary to await his bride.

He watched and waited as two violins and a piano played Canon in D as the mothers were seated, and Largo from Xerxes as the beautiful bridesmaids walked down the aisle.

The four flower girls were led by the ringbearer and then ...
... the doors were closed.

All rose as the bride and her father approached.

All in the wedding party sat as a charge was given to the couple. The congregation joined in singing O the Deep Deep Love of Jesus and Take My Life and Let it Be.

Vows were spoken, rings were exchanged, prayer was given for the couple, and their union was pronounced.

They couldn't seem to wipe the happy grins from their faces.

Were they really married? So much joy wasn't possible, was it?

They walked arm in arm into the reception, held in the very same room where they met.

When it was time to go, the bride shed a few tears as she said goodbye to her family, but quickly shook them away to leave with her new husband.

Near disaster was averted as the impatient groom almost caused a fender bender.

The newlyweds rode off into the sunset. They didn't realize that they could love each other any more then they did at that moment...

... but they do.

How God Brought Us Together - Part Two (x-post from my other blog)

2007-09-21T06:27:00.000-07:00

THE SUMMER COURTSHIP
The days of summer progressed, and so did our relationship with one another. The emails continued, but they got shorter because we were talking so much. The calls got more frequent, and we began to see each other every weekend.

We started to pray together. Mr S emailed me a list of items to pray for.

We also started reading two Christian books which Mr. S purchased for me. We started to talk about the future. We were surprised how closely God was knitting our hearts. I think we all just knew.

He had not confessed his love for me, although he made sure I knew how he felt. He always talked about how red roses meant love, and he knew that I loved roses. On the day before my birthday a vase stuffed with beautiful red roses and other filler flowers arrived at my house. The card read: "Red!!! What does that mean? I forget. Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow."

When he asked my Dad if he could officially court me, my Dad gave his consent readily (after a serious conversation of course!). He became a part of our small family and I became a part of his big family.

ENGAGEMENT

On October 17, 2003, I was supposed to go spend the weekend in Mr.S's neck of the woods. I was going to a birthday party for his cousin. This was my first time spending an overnight in North Jersey.

I noticed that Mom said "I love you," to Mr S when we were walking down the driveway, but I didn't think anything of it.

We went past the exit we were supposed to turn off on, and when I asked about it, I was assured that "we could go this way too." He pulled into Liberty State Park and I was enjoying the lit up buildings ... it was beautiful. I was fine until he pulled into a parking lot and stopped the car. He asked me if I wanted to take a walk. I wasn't sure what he was doing. We always discussed everything we did before we did it. We always cleared everything with my dad too. I told him that I didn't want to take a walk. He was shocked! He said that he needed to stretch his legs and after he walked around and got his jacket out of the trunk, he told me that there was something he wanted to show me. I was uncomfortable (spontaneity is not my strong point), but I went. We walked onto the bridge and he showed me the Statue of Liberty. It was breathtaking in the dusk.

Then I felt a drop land on my nose.

"It's raining," I announced.

"It's not," he said quickly.

"Bev, your parents know we're here," he finally said, sensing my inner thoughts.

"They do?" I said, ready to cry with relief, "why didn't you tell me that?"

"Because it was supposed to be a surprise," he answered smiling down at me.

We started to walk along the bridge hand in hand. He stopped and told me that he wished he could show me how much he loved me.

I started to realize at that moment what was going on.

He told me that he was going to show me, and next thing I knew, he was down on one knee in front of me. He was holding a ring in the air ... it was sparkling in the overhead lights.I don't remember what I said. It was an indescribable feeling.

But yes --- we still had to attend the birthday party. So we got back in the car -- we were both giddy, and drove to his house. When I walked in, my parents and my sister and his family and some friends were there! It wasn't a birthday party but an engagement party for us. It was a perfect ending.

The next morning, we went to breakfast at a friend's house. There, we saw our two friends who had gotten engaged the very same night! Mr.S and the other guy - the very same one who had alerted Mr.S to sit at our table at the banquet - had planned all this to perfection. We got engaged simultaneously, and not far in location from one another. You can imagine what a gleeful breakfast this was.

By the way, we also got married within three months of each other and had our first children within three months of each other. We are currently planning their wedding:-) They beat us with the second child though, theirs is due in just a few weeks!

That night, we went to The Manor for dinner. A wedding was going on outside and we sat at a distance and dreamed and planned about us.

Thus ends my narrative about the courtship and engagement.I think I will post about the wedding on September 25th as that is our actual anniversary. And yes, I'll include a few pictures.

How God Brought Us Together Part One (x-post from my other blog)

2007-09-19T14:04:00.000-07:00

Girls, I thought this might be an encouragement for you to read. I posted it on my other blog in honor of our upcoming anniversary. I hope to post other similar stories in the future. I know it is wonderful to hear how God can work in bringing people together!

Well, I've almost been married for three years now. In one sense, it seems like it has gone so quickly, but in another, it feels like I have been married to Mr.S for my whole life!We grew up in the same state, and in sister churches. We were familiar with one another's families, but had never met. His uncle had preached at our church several times, and his cousin had attended my church for several years before moving away. I had taught her kids in Sunday School and we were very friendly.So how did God make us aware of each other?

WHERE WE MET

We met at an annual Spring Banquet at Trinity Baptist Church in Montville NJ. Neither of us were that excited about going. He had been to them so many times, and I always feel apprehensive about trying new things!At the banquet, I was sitting with four other friends from church, when his friend told him that he had to go to our table and meet me.He ended up sitting at our table and staying there! He didn't talk to me too much, and I was too occupied to notice that he was staring at me the entire time. Once, he flashed a brilliant smile at me, and I remember thinking, "what a nice smile."I left with my friends, and when asked by my dad if I had met Pastor Brevard's nephew at the banquet, I said "Yes -- he sat at our table! He was very nice."My dad pressed a little further, "did he seem interested at all?""No, but he was very nice," was my reply.

HIS COUSIN CALLS MY MOM

A week later, I was on lunch break at JoAnn Fabrics examining material when I got a call on my cell phone. It was my mom telling me that Mr. S's cousin had called her, saying that her cousin was interested in getting to know Beverly. I was astonished. She said that she had been urging him to meet me for a few years at least, and that we had finally "providentially" met on our own."But he didn't even talk to me!" I marvelled.THE LONG WAIT
Of course, this whole phone call triggered many dinner time conversations, introspections, talks with those that knew him, and talks with my Heavenly Father.
I was struggling because I knew that since I was 22, and he was 25 -- this could be very serious. This could mean marriage. I wanted to be absolutely willing for the relationship to lead to marriage before even starting to communicate.
It was a month later, when I called his cousin back. I realized that it had been a l-o-n-g time, and I didn't even know if he was still interested. His cousin didn't tell me one way or another, but questioned me for quite a while about how things were going in my life, and what God was . I gave her my email address and sighed with relief. I didn't know that Mr.S had nearly given up, and was ready to move on. God has perfect timing!

YOU'VE GOT MAIL

Three days later, I heard from Mr. S by email for the first time. I was so excited. I wrote him back that very day, but didn't send it until the next day.
Thus began our correspondance. He would write one day, and I would write the next. He never forgot, and neither did I. The emails were getting longer and longer. We had a lot in common. After we had written every day for two weeks, he slipped a question into the end of his email, "Hey, I was wondering if it would be okay if I called you sometime?"
I asked my parents and they said it was ok, so we planned to talk after evening service that next Sunday.

PHONE CALLS - LONG ONES

Our first phone call was wonderful. We talked for three hours. His phone died and he had to go get another one. In the middle of that call, Mr.S talked to my dad and asked him if he could call regularly. Dad said yes and said "don't abuse the privilege!" We decided that he would call on Sunday nights after church.
We continued to email every day, but the next Sunday night stretched far into the future. It was so hard to wait! On Friday night, the subject heading of his email read "sixty-nine hours and counting..."
We talked for three and a half hours the next time ... and then we started talking twice a week.
He asked me if he could come visit our church and home. Dad said yes.

THE VISIT

That Sunday as I taught Sunday School, I was so nervous. Through the window in my room, I saw him drive into the parking lot. I hardly knew what to do or how to act, but we had a wonderful day. He had dinner with our family and brought my mom a gift. He even helped us get dinner ready. I didn't want the day to end and I was starting to feel something very strange growing in my heart. Already? you may ask -- but when God is doing a work, our timing may not be His timing.
We wanted to see each other again, and my dad agreed that he could come five days later for the 4th of July. I was so excited, and so was he. His whole family was waiting at home to see how his day went, and I went home to discuss everything with my parents. I felt this strange sense of calm. I was so happy and excited, but it seemed so right -- something I had never felt before.

Thus ends part one ... part two will include: summer courtship, the engagement, marriage.

Seasonal Delights

2007-09-10T17:01:00.000-07:00

I just had to share a new find with all of you.

We are about to enter my favorite season of the whole year! Imagine my delight when I bumped into a wonderful online magazine whose current issue is totally dedicated to the season of autumn.

Imagine my delight, when, upon further inspection, I saw that this very beautiful magazine is written for girls and their moms!

Also imagine my delight when two of the articles in the magazine were about letter/card writing, and having a tea party with your mom!

Delight is an apt word to use, for this colorful magazine is called Seasonal Delights and will be produced quarterly.

The best thing about all this, is that you can subscribe free for a year, if you hurry over there and subscribe before the end of September.

I really think that you and your mom will be delighted by this delightful magazine ;-)

I'll be back

2007-09-04T12:17:00.000-07:00

Once again, I apologize for not posting. Our little family is very busy and has a lot going on, so I don't have too much time. I haven't forgotten you girls! I think of you so often, and will post as soon as I can.

Much love from me!

p.s. My little girl is one today! She is such a blessing to us.

The Garden of Friendship

2007-08-23T08:44:00.000-07:00

Hello --- its about time to water those gardens again, is it not? Today I want to talk briefly about the listening ear.

Scenario set up:

You've waited for days to tell a close friend about an experience you went through. Finally, you know she is available so you give her a call. While you are talking, you notice that her answers aren't always appropriate to your statements. Listening to the background noise coming from the other end of the phone, you hear her fingers busily TYPING as you are talking. This isn't the best feeling!

I must admit that I have done this -- especially to my poor mom. We talk every morning on the phone, and sometimes we type in each other's ears. Sorry mom! But seriously, this is not a good habit to get into.

Another common problem that we have is thinking about our response while someone else is talking. This prevents us from truly listening the way we should.

Follow-up is another area of need. When a friend asks us for prayer, we shouldn't glibly say "I'll be praying!" I realized that I was typing this into many comment boxes on many blogs -- making it impossible to remember all the requests that I was promising to pray for. A simple notepad will solve this problem. Just write the name and request down, and you will be able to pray when you promise to. You will also remember to follow up on the request and see how the person is making out.

Try to practice listening this week. I will too! Girls, those gardens are lookin' great ...

It has been an emotional week!

2007-08-18T11:05:00.000-07:00

Hello girls ...

I am sorry that I didn't get to post anything this week. Life has settled down considerably, but we had a couple of emotional things happen. Somehow I just didn't have the wherewithal to come up with a topic.

We have been rejoicing greatly with two of our dearest friends who found out that they were expecting in March. Beka and Charissa are sisters and I grew up with them.

Beka and her husband have been going through months of waiting on the Lord to bless her womb after a miscarriage a little more then a year and a half ago. She found out that she was pregnant about a month ago.

Charissa and her husband had already discovered that God had blessed her womb.

We were all wildly expectant for the two blessings due in March.

Please read this and secondly, this, post by Beka. Please join me in praying.

I posted this on my other blog after we found out about Charissa's miscarriage. The hymn I copied down has been such a blessing.

Thank you for being patient with me. I'll try to write something next week, as well as visit your individual blogs.

Lots of love.

I'll be back next week!

2007-08-09T08:38:00.000-07:00

This is a very busy week for our little family! I'm not sure whether I am coming or going, so I'd better not try to post anything creative. I just wanted you all to know that I am still thinking about you, and that I should be back next week.

My little sweetie (she's 11 months old) took her first steps yesterday ... okay, it was really one step! But she did it twice, and her daddy and mommy are sooooo excited.

I hope that all of you are having a wonderful week. I did update the website last week, and put a new Scripture, recipe, and started a bonified store. There is only one product on the shelf so far, but I am working on that. I have some ideas ... let me know if you have any as well.

Praying for grace for all of us this week ...

Guest Post - The Garden of Life

2007-08-02T18:47:00.000-07:00

I would like to introduce you to Anna Naomi who has graciously agreed to let me use her writings here. Please check out her blog, Maidens of Worth, which she shares with another sweet girl, Miriam Rebekah. I have been very blessed by the spirit of these two girls and their desire to serve the Lord!

Tuesday, December 19, 2006
The Garden of Life
*Disclaimer* Although I know that somewhere there is a book or list of different meanings for different flowers. However, I don't know them all, and the attributes I've assigned to different flowers are entirely of my own imagination.

If your life were a garden, what would be growing in it? The Bible tells us that we do indeed "plant" things in our lives. Galatians 6:7 says, "Do not be deceived; God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows." So, what are you growing in the garden of life?

Are the red roses of love growing in your garden? Love that is true, and not self-seeking? What about the white roses of purity? Are they in your life, presenting themselves clean and spotless to the world? Are the carnations of compassion flowering beautifully? Along with them, are the lilies of kindness blooming big and bright?

Walking on, would we find the daffodils of joy cheerfully making your garden a fun, joyful place? Are the pansies of peace placidly providing a calm atmosphere? Are the hyacinths of hope keeping your spirits up, while the lilacs of faith keeping your trust in God unwavering?

In the prettiest part of the garden, are the violets of gentleness doing well? And the primroses of patience, ever nearby, are they growing in depth and size? Are the daisies of grace dancing their way trough the garden, not only affecting your poise, but also helping you overlook others' faults? And the bluebells of modesty, are they blooming away, sweet, yet rarely noticed? Likewise, are the buttercups of humility helping all the other lovely flowers by protecting you from become high and haughty?

Close by, are the sunflowers of wisdom sharing their seeds and lessons learned with others? Are the peonies of prudence there as well, helping you know when to speak and when to keep silent? As a necessity to your reputation, are you tending the hydrangeas of honesty carefully? Are the chrysanthemums of justice working to make sure no one is taken advantage of, while the marigold of mercy works patiently and kindly with those who have done wrong?

No garden would be complete without the gardenias of diligence working hard to get things done. Coupled with the tulips of strength, a lot can be accomplished. Is the wisteria of endurance winding its way around, refusing to give up? What about the orchids of self-control? Are you growing those stronger and stronger?

In the center of the garden, is the goldenrod of the fear and love of the Lord shining brightly and reminding you not to compromise on His commands?

Just as it is important to plant good things in your garden, it is important to guard against the bad things that would try to grow. The devil loves to plant weeds of bitterness, envy, and srife, and send out briers of selfishness, laziness, and deceitfulness. He's always trying to find ways to plant evil little things, that would grow to wreak havoc on your garden. You must be alert, and tend your garden carefully. Pull out the weeds and cut away the briers as soon as you can, to prevent them from taking root and chocking the delicate flowers.

So, how's your garden? Is it a beautifully array of colors, spreading sweet perfume wherever you go, or is it drab and lifeless? Are you tending the garden of your life well?
posted by Anna Naomi

If you would like to read this article with its original comments, go here. If you would like to share your writings with this blog, email me at joyousmommie@girlinside.com.

Tidbits from my Journal

2007-07-26T18:42:00.000-07:00

I am perusing my old Journals ...

I discovered a lot of quotes in them that used to help and comfort me, and I wanted to share a few with you.
Here is one I found from September 4, 2001. Read it, and feel it.
During this time I was nervous and uncertain because I was entering my last year of college and had just posted my resume online.

"Sometimes we wake feeling 'down' and we feel like that all day long for no reason that we can discover -- only it is so ... It is useless to try to feel different; trying does not touch feelings. It is useless to argue with oneself; feelings elude arguments. Be patient -- feelings are like the mists that cover the mountains in misty weather. The mists pass; the mountains abide. Turn to your Father; tell Him you know that He loves you whether you feel it or not, and that you know that He is with you whether you feel His presence or not..."

-Amy Carmichael-

The Garden of Friendship

2007-07-19T07:54:00.000-07:00

Girl Reading a Letter at
an Open Window
Johannes Vermeer
c.1654-7

Time to water our gardens again!

One fine day, when we still lived in our second floor apartment, I waddled downstairs (I was pregnant at the time) to get the mail.

I was delighted when, amidst the bills and circulars, I found a card addressed to me! It was from a very dear friend that I do not see often. The card was beautifully handmade, and inside was a handwritten note of friendship.

The fact that my friend took the time to make me a card, and write me a letter made me feel loved. This is a wonderful way to water our friendship gardens!

Here are some letter writing hints:

1. Use nice stationary, or even make your own!

2. Use proper etiquette.

3. Think about your friend while you write, reflect on how much you care for them and why.

4. Make sure you don't go on and on about yourself! Ask questions about your friend, or perhaps recall some fun experiences that you had with your friend.

5. Write with a special pen. I love the excitement of filling a crisp, blank piece of paper with bold script!

6. Hint to your friend that you would love to receive a "real" letter in return!

I close with the words of Paul to Timothy in his loving letter:

"To Timothy, a beloved son: Grace, mercy, and peace from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord. I thank God, whom I serve with a pure conscience, as my forefathers did, as without ceasing, I remember you in my prayers night and day, greatly desiring to see you, being mindful of your tears, that I may be filled with joy, when I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you ... " 2Timothy 1:2-5a

Two reminders!

Next week -- the website will be updated ... take a look if you remember.

In two weeks -- we will be featuring an article from a guest blogger -- this article was a blessing to me when I read it, and pray that God will use it for all of you.

Loneliness

2007-07-11T11:04:00.000-07:00

Loneliness

You don't have to be on a desert island to feel lonely. You can be in the midst of a big group of people, and still feel all alone. You don't have to be shy to be lonely. You can be the most outgoing person in the group, and still feel isolated.

I tried to think of some situations where loneliness can weigh us down. Some of these I have experienced, and others I can't say I have. Some of these situations may be combined in your life, or they may overlap. But I hope this helps a little bit. If there is something that I haven't thought of, feel free to leave it in a comment ... or email me. I wouldn't mind doing another post on this topic if I've left things out.

1. Feeling like you don't fit into one "group" and always feeling on the fringe or outside of the group.

Have you ever stood on the edge of a crowd, just wishing that someone would turn around and include you in their conversation? Have you ever tried to find somewhere to sit, but no one would meet your eyes? These are times where you feel the blood rush to your face, and you may feel awkward and unsure of what to do.

2. Feeling that no one shares your beliefs or convictions.

We have been called as Christians to be holy. This means that we will be set apart - different - from the crowd. I remember the first six weeks of my freshman year of college. I hadn't met anyone yet, and I was a commuter student. I felt so alone. I felt like I stuck out like a sore thumb. Even though things got better after those first weeks, there was always a difference between me and the others I interacted with at school. I remember eating numerous lunches with friends, and being the only one to bow my head before the meal.

3. Moving away to a new state, town, church or school.

Have you ever been the new one at a school, church or job? These can be lonely days for anyone. It takes a while to find your niche -- where you fit in -- in your new surroundings.

4. Facing rejection from a close friend. Feeling left behind.

When friendships go stale, it can be a great time of emotional loneliness for a young women. There are also situations where a friend has not necessarily rejected you, but may be moving on in her life and you are not. Maybe she is moving away, or even getting married. If you are not, you may feel that your life isn't going anywhere, and everyone else is hitting milestones while you stay stagnant. You wonder, "When will it be my turn?"

5. Having to take a stand

When I was almost 18, I went to New Mexico as a delegate for a Junior Science Symposium. I felt like I got along very well with the other four young people that I traveled with. We had fun eating together, shopping together, and spent time talking about all sorts of things. The last night there, we attended a fancy banquet. There was a dance after the banquet, where everyone was encouraged to enjoy themselves. I knew that I wouldn't be "enjoying myself" in this way. One of the girls in my group assured me that she "didn't feel like dancing" and would stay with me. But an hour later, I was wandering around the hotel by myself. It was a time of loneliness that caused me to pray for strength. Was I the only one among hundreds that wasn't dancing? But God sent me one person that long evening that loved the Lord as well. We sat and talked for about three hours. The Lord provides, doesn't He?

6. There just isn't anyone around.
Maybe nothing drastic has happened. Perhaps there is simply no one around that you would be able to befriend! These are times when our ability to wait on the Lord is tested. We should have high standards for friendship as Christians. Good friends are hard to find.

If you are lonely, my sister-friend, you must realize several things:

1. God has not promised us lives of ease. We must go through trials in our Christian lives. Loneliness is a trial, but through this trial God is molding us and helping us to grow in Him. Maybe in some cases, God wants you to cling to your parents, and spend time with them. Your mother can be your very best friend. I learned this in my teen years. We must not waste these times in our lives griping about the fact that we are lonely. I am talking to myself too! We must cling to our Savior and meditate on His word. Here are some verses. Please meditate on these things.
Psalm 37:4
James 1: 2-4 (This is a really good one!)
I Peter 5:6-7
Ephesians 3:17-21

2. Sometimes we are lonely because of the unkindness of others. If this is so, always remember to be aware of other's feelings. Because you have felt the sting of loneliness and exclusion, you will be able to minister to others who are going through the same things. Remember to put on a bright and smiling face so that others will know that you are open to getting to know them. If you have a group at church, for example, remember to introduce yourself to new faces that may show up. Make sure that you are showing integrity in your own life. God will handle those who have misused you. Proverbs 10:9: "He who walks with integrity walks securely, but he who perverts his ways will become known."

3. Stay busy. Going through an emotional trial may cause you to draw into yourself. This is a natural response, but not one that is pleasing to God. We can find our joy in helping others and finding little ways to make them happy. The busier you are, chances are that you will not feel so lonely.

4. Don't lock yourself in to a particular age group. If God has not sent you a friend that is your age, don't forget that you don't have to base your all of your friendships on one age category. There may be younger girls just waiting to learn from you, who would be blessed if you would befriend them. There may be older women who have a lot to teach you.

5. Take it to the Lord in prayer. Always, always, ask God to send you righteous friends that will benefit you in your Christian life. We should always take our troubles to the One Who can help us. Lamentations 3:25 "The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, To the soul who seeks Him."

6. Know and take comfort in the Sovereignty of God. Our God has a plan for our lives, and will work everything out according to His timing and perfect plan. Psalm 62:5: "My soul, wait silently for God alone. For my expectation is from Him." Jeremiah 32:17: "Ah, Lord God! Behold, You have made the heavens and the earth by Your great power and outstretched arm. There is nothing too hard for You."

With much love, my sister-friends, I leave you to meditate on this post. Like I said, there may be things I have left out that you would like to hear about. You can email me at joyousmommie@girlinside.com, or just comment here or on the website. In the next couple of weeks, I'll be posting new "stuff" on the site, so remember -- I'm looking for recipes for the "Put Your Apron On" section.

The Garden of Friendship

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Would your friends say this about you?

"(Fill in the blank) is a great friend. I can always count on her, and I know she cares about me."

In the weeks ahead, I'll be posting some tips on ways to water the garden of friendship. Once you've planted those initial seeds, you can't just take off and expect the garden to grow. I haven't always done as much as I could to cultivate my garden, so let's learn together!

I guess from the graphic on the top of this post, you already know that I am going to suggest that you plan a little tea party for you and a friend. The above picture shows three young women, but why not pick one friend and spend some really great quality time with her?

It doesn't have to be elaborate or expensive at all. In these modern days of blogging, IM and email, maybe we don't communicate face to face as much as we could. Believe me, I use all these forms every day in my daily life, so I'm not putting them down!

Here are five steps to get you started:

1. Pick a friend that you haven't "caught up" with lately.

2. Send her a little invitation -- in the mail :-)

3. Brew a perfect pot of tea, make sandwiches, and something sweet!

4. Start your time with prayer. Pray that your speech would be edifying to the Lord.

5. Spend some time with her, talking and listening.

Enjoy yourself! You can get as creative or simple as you like!

If you have a tea party, and happen to get some good snapshots of it (I love pictures), email them to me at joyousmommie@girlinside.com. I don't know, maybe they'll get posted!

Pleased to Meet You

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I just wanted to take an opportunity to welcome you to this blog, and to introduce myself! This blog was created in correlation with The Girl Inside website.

My name is Beverly, and I have been married for 2 years and nine months (and counting!) My husband and I have a daughter who is almost ten months old as I write this. As a young woman, I was privileged to have many good examples of what a godly woman should be. I have a sister who is in her teen years, and also have the joy of knowing many others in this age category. I see how difficult it is to strive for holiness in our modern times, for we are to be set apart - different from the world.

I wanted to start The Girl Inside to create an environment for Christian young ladies who want to focus on their inner beauty. The phrase "the girl inside," refers to just this. This will be a forum for all of us to discuss whatever is true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous, and praiseworthy. If these traits sound familiar, you may be thinking of Philippians 4:8, our theme verse for The Girl Inside.

I don't want to be the only one who posts on this blog, as there are so many who have wisdom to share. I need to learn from them as well! I hope to update this blog with tidbits and articles written by others who wish to join in this endeavor.

So, nice to meet you. I would love to hear from you! What kinds of things would you like to discuss here? May God bless you.

Meditate on These Things

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Welcome to The Girl Inside blog. This is the first of what I hope will be many articles. As I said in my introduction, I hope not to be the only one contributing to this blog as I have many people in mind that I will ask to share. Maybe you are one of them!

In my next few articles, I want to focus on the theme verse of The Girl Inside. I have this scripture framed and hanging in my upstairs bathroom. I love this verse because it packages so many truths into one short paragraph.

We learn in Philippians 4:8, that we are to meditate, that is, think about and internalize, things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous, and praiseworthy. Lets look at truth today.

Truth. Nelson's Three-in-One Bible Reference Companion defines truth as "that which is reliable, trustworthy, and consistent with the character and revelation of God."

God has been gracious to us in revealing His truth to us in His Word. Psalm 119:142 says, "Your righteousness is an everlasting righteousness, and your law is truth." Verse 160 says, "The entirety of Your word is truth, and every one of Your righteous judgements endures forever."

When we think of truth, we often think that we are telling the truth if we stay away from lying. Indeed, God wants us to be honest in all things.

But how do we meditate on things that are true, that are consistent with the Word of God?

I would like to introduce you to a girl named Carol. She is sixteen years old, and dreams about the day when she will be a bride. Her parents have told her that this is a righteous desire, as long as she does not make an idol of it. They have also told her that the wedding itself is nothing compared to the life she will spend with her future husband (if God grants her one!)

Carol has been urged to pray for her future mate, and to spend her single years focusing on the godly virtues that will make her a most excellent wife one day. One day, Carol picks up a book at the library that she absolutely can not put down. This story focuses on the world's view of love. Even though her heart is whispering to her that what she is reading goes against the truths of the Bible, she finds herself wanting to read more and more. Everything she reads is appealing to her romantic sensibilities!

Over the weeks that follow, she builds up a list of her "ideal" man, forgetting entirely that "man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart" (I Samuel 16:7.)

Thought Questions:

1. How is Carol not meditating on things that are true?

2. What harm is she doing by focusing on these novels for her ideas of romance?

3. What are ways that you meditate on things that are true? Do you have any helpful hints to share with your sister friends that may read this blog? If so, leave a comment!

4. What other traps can we fall into in this area of meditating on truth?

Thank you, my dear, younger sisters. I hope these few thoughts have been a blessing to you! Please feel free to comment, if you would like to share your thoughts on this article. I would like to reiterate that if you have a submission that you would like me to post, remembering that everything on this site must be consistent with the truths in Philippians 4:8, please contact me at joyousmommie@girlinside.com .

May God bless you!

3John: 4 "I have no greater joy than to hear my children walk in the truth."